Large age gaps, 25-30 years... does it always mean one person has issues/baggage?

[Anonymous]

If there’s a large age gap of 25-30 years (say a 25 year old and 50 year old) does it always mean there’s one person who has some major baggage or issues?

[Anonymous]

Bags of money typically.

[Anonymous]

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Bags of money typically.

Funny, but in the few couples I know like this the guy doesn’t have money at all.with one of them, she’s the primary earner.

[Anonymous]

Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

Or possibly you attract women with daddy issues. Or women who feel a bit lost and are attracted to men who seem more settled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

You’re just like my ex, same age and he makes a lot, uses it for power and control. Takes them a while to discover he is a narcissist and incredibly abusive. Puts on a good show, with nice incentives. I do not envy them at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

Or possibly you attract women with daddy issues. Or women who feel a bit lost and are attracted to men who seem more settled.

DP.. a 10 to 12 yr age gap doesn't scream " daddy issues" to me, but ^PP is right.. most women wouldn't go for a much older man if it wasn't for the money. And that doesn't mean that the man makes $500K. To some women, it's just about a man buying them nice stuff, even if it's on credit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Bags of money typically.

Funny, but in the few couples I know like this the guy doesn’t have money at all.with one of them, she’s the primary earner.

Is she 25 years older than her husband/boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

You’re just like my ex, same age and he makes a lot, uses it for power and control. Takes them a while to discover he is a narcissist and incredibly abusive. Puts on a good show, with nice incentives. I do not envy them at all.

Yes, you do, or you wouldn't be here complaining about him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

You’re just like my ex, same age and he makes a lot, uses it for power and control. Takes them a while to discover he is a narcissist and incredibly abusive. Puts on a good show, with nice incentives. I do not envy them at all.

Yes, you do, or you wouldn't be here complaining about him.

It might be enviable when she's 24 and off in Paris with a fit 49 year old but much less so when she's 50 and he's 75 and experiencing senior health issues and cannot enjoy sex the same way.

[Anonymous]

Most women I know who are married to men 10 plus years older did it to upgrade their life in some way. Men were more established, had more money, interesting jobs or businesses, right kind of passport. It’s a short cut to building yourself and your life but definitely comes with a price which these women were willing to pay.

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My sister married a man 16 years older when she was young. It was fun for a moment flying first class and accompanying him to interesting places, but reality set in with his kids and ex wife and he became less available to her overtime due to all his baggage, not to mention lately he just seems old, and she’s still young and beautiful and vibrant and she just became a partner in her firm. We all see the writing on the wall now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a large age gap of 25-30 years (say a 25 year old and 50 year old) does it always mean there’s one person who has some major baggage or issues?

No, it always means they both have issues. It also always mean the man is wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

Or possibly you attract women with daddy issues. Or women who feel a bit lost and are attracted to men who seem more settled.

Don't get jealous, PP. Not everyone has daddy issues and people do get attracted towards success and money. LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically, it's for money or the lifestyle. I'm divorced and in my mid 40s. I"m in good shape and have been dating frequency since I got my life back. I've primarily dated women in their early 30s. One in her late 20s. One in her late 30s. I am very successful and most of the women I've dated know this (meet through some type of work).

It's never discussed, but I know if I wasn't wealthy half of them wouldn't be as keen on dating me. But, when a man can take you on weekend trips, nice restaurants, treats you well, etc it's a real attraction.

Or possibly you attract women with daddy issues. Or women who feel a bit lost and are attracted to men who seem more settled.

Don't get jealous, PP. Not everyone has daddy issues and people do get attracted towards success and money. LOL

Nah. I remember when I was 25 the only girls who dated much older had issues. Daddy issues, mental health issues, but something. Men like to tell themselves it’s just the natural order, but surely deep down they know it’s not true and when they were 25, their peers who were well adjusted weren’t dating divorcees.