Wedleases?

[Anonymous]

What do you think?


These are fixed-term marriages. I.e. you decide to renew or not after X years.



https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/a-high-divorce-rate-means-its-time-to-try-wedleases/2013/08/04/f2221c1c-f89e-11e2-b018-5b8251f0c56e_story.html

[Anonymous]

That article was 8 years ago. I guess the concept really took off .

My thoughts: stupid.

It should not be called a marriage, but have a different name.

Marriage is pledging to be with someone for life, through sickness and health, the good and the bad. All marriages have cycles. Jumping shop at the first discord is fruitless. It’s awful an awful concept of you plan to have kids.

I’ve been with my husband 25 years and there is nobody else I’d want to be with. And the sex us still good too.

My immediate and extended family is extremely close with lots of history, tradition and fun. I can’t imagine a bunch of contracts and new contracts and no familial bond lasting generations.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like: until something better comes along. It’s not a true commitment. Talk about a “business marriage”.

I suggest individual and pre-marital counseling prior to marriage for all instead.

[Anonymous]

It would be more beneficial for us to figure out why marriages are failing and address that, rather than dumb ideas like leases. Sort of like, if I keep hitting my shin with a hammer, I can take all sorts of pain killers and wrap a cushion around my leg to soften the blows and complain to everyone all day about how much my leg hurts, or….I can just stop hitting my shin with the hammer.

Things like empathy, interpersonal relationships, building friendships - all of which will help strengthen marriages - are things that should be taught to children in schools but parents freak out over that for some reason. Also relationship/marriage courses and counseling, plus individual therapy, should be available free or very cheap, and adults should be strongly encouraged to do it (rather than it being stigmatized as it is now).

It’s always seemed very strange to me that we received 12-20 years of schooling to prepare us for our jobs, but we receive none to prepare us for the things that are actually important, such as marriage, friendships, raising children, living a fulfilling life, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would be more beneficial for us to figure out why marriages are failing and address that, rather than dumb ideas like leases. Sort of like, if I keep hitting my shin with a hammer, I can take all sorts of pain killers and wrap a cushion around my leg to soften the blows and complain to everyone all day about how much my leg hurts, or….I can just stop hitting my shin with the hammer.

Things like empathy, interpersonal relationships, building friendships - all of which will help strengthen marriages - are things that should be taught to children in schools but parents freak out over that for some reason. Also relationship/marriage courses and counseling, plus individual therapy, should be available free or very cheap, and adults should be strongly encouraged to do it (rather than it being stigmatized as it is now).

It’s always seemed very strange to me that we received 12-20 years of schooling to prepare us for our jobs, but we receive none to prepare us for the things that are actually important, such as marriage, friendships, raising children, living a fulfilling life, etc.

What’s important to you isn’t necessarily what’s important to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That article was 8 years ago. I guess the concept really took off .

My thoughts: stupid.

It should not be called a marriage, but have a different name.

Marriage is pledging to be with someone for life, through sickness and health, the good and the bad. All marriages have cycles. Jumping shop at the first discord is fruitless. It’s awful an awful concept of you plan to have kids.

I’ve been with my husband 25 years and there is nobody else I’d want to be with. And the sex us still good too.

My immediate and extended family is extremely close with lots of history, tradition and fun. I can’t imagine a bunch of contracts and new contracts and no familial bond lasting generations.

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be more beneficial for us to figure out why marriages are failing and address that, rather than dumb ideas like leases. Sort of like, if I keep hitting my shin with a hammer, I can take all sorts of pain killers and wrap a cushion around my leg to soften the blows and complain to everyone all day about how much my leg hurts, or….I can just stop hitting my shin with the hammer.

Things like empathy, interpersonal relationships, building friendships - all of which will help strengthen marriages - are things that should be taught to children in schools but parents freak out over that for some reason. Also relationship/marriage courses and counseling, plus individual therapy, should be available free or very cheap, and adults should be strongly encouraged to do it (rather than it being stigmatized as it is now).

It’s always seemed very strange to me that we received 12-20 years of schooling to prepare us for our jobs, but we receive none to prepare us for the things that are actually important, such as marriage, friendships, raising children, living a fulfilling life, etc.

What’s important to you isn’t necessarily what’s important to others.

I’m not saying everyone needs to raise children. But for those who want children, yes, it’s absolutely just as important as working (if not more), and we should receive education on it, plus societal support with things like parental leave, flexible work, etc.

If marriage isn’t important to you, then you don’t get married, and none of this even applies.

I do think it’s very sad if you only care about career, so you never have any friendships or deeper meaning in life. I’ve known a couple people like that, and they were truly miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think?


These are fixed-term marriages. I.e. you decide to renew or not after X years.



https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/a-high-divorce-rate-means-its-time-to-try-wedleases/2013/08/04/f2221c1c-f89e-11e2-b018-5b8251f0c56e_story.html

The ancient Celts had something like 9 different types of legal marriage before they converted to Christianity.I always liked the idea of marriages that were a year and a day in length unless you mutually agreed to continue. And I’m happily married.

[Anonymous]

I think the term is stupid but I think everyone that gets married should write their own marriage contract. The fact that we let the govt decide is stupid and if we change states our marriage contract changes is beyond bizarre and crazy any of us agreed to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That article was 8 years ago. I guess the concept really took off .

My thoughts: stupid.

It should not be called a marriage, but have a different name.

Marriage is pledging to be with someone for life, through sickness and health, the good and the bad. All marriages have cycles. Jumping shop at the first discord is fruitless. It’s awful an awful concept of you plan to have kids.

I’ve been with my husband 25 years and there is nobody else I’d want to be with. And the sex us still good too.

My immediate and extended family is extremely close with lots of history, tradition and fun. I can’t imagine a bunch of contracts and new contracts and no familial bond lasting generations.

Good for you. A lot of marriages are pretty awful. I would have preferred this to a wedding. I would I have renewed at six months and we would’ve saved ourselves a lot of money and hassle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That article was 8 years ago. I guess the concept really took off .

My thoughts: stupid.

It should not be called a marriage, but have a different name.

Marriage is pledging to be with someone for life, through sickness and health, the good and the bad. All marriages have cycles. Jumping shop at the first discord is fruitless. It’s awful an awful concept of you plan to have kids.

I’ve been with my husband 25 years and there is nobody else I’d want to be with. And the sex us still good too.

My immediate and extended family is extremely close with lots of history, tradition and fun. I can’t imagine a bunch of contracts and new contracts and no familial bond lasting generations.

Good for you. A lot of marriages are pretty awful. I would have preferred this to a wedding. I would I have renewed at six months and we would’ve saved ourselves a lot of money and hassle

I would have NOT renewed at 6 months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the term is stupid but I think everyone that gets married should write their own marriage contract. The fact that we let the govt decide is stupid and if we change states our marriage contract changes is beyond bizarre and crazy any of us agreed to that.

I totally agree

-OP

[Anonymous]

France has three different types of marriage (or used to).

[Anonymous]

I'd be interested in a boyfriend lease. Seems like it would be much easier than apps.

[Anonymous]

I keep reading the title as "weed leases" and thinking OP is trying to convince her SO to go into the pot business.