If you’re divorced w kids what is your 50/50 custody arrangement?

[Anonymous]

What is your “50/50” custody arrangement between you and your ex, and how old are your kids? Trying to better understand the ways joint custody works in real life — one week here/one week there? Thurs dinner + alternating weekends? Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your “50/50” custody arrangement between you and your ex, and how old are your kids? Trying to better understand the ways joint custody works in real life — one week here/one week there? Thurs dinner + alternating weekends? Etc.

You can make up whatever you want you just both have to agree to it.

[Anonymous]

My husband is on a three four schedule with his ex.

I think I would prefer every other week personally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your “50/50” custody arrangement between you and your ex, and how old are your kids? Trying to better understand the ways joint custody works in real life — one week here/one week there? Thurs dinner + alternating weekends? Etc.

I know all kinds of arrangements. One week on one week off, every other weekend plus wedges night, nesting, school year with mom and long weekends / summers with dad. You decide together.

[Anonymous]

I have 7,9, and 15 year old. We do one week alternating. Older kids like it bc not moving houses so much. Younger one missed the other parent over the course of a week.

[Anonymous]

I pick up wed after school/camp (or during COVID before or after school) and then we swap Sat afternoon one week/Sunday at noon one week. It's usually suggested that younger kids see each parent more often and older kids go longer between switching/have more say in the schedule. We've been doing this schedule for 6 years and are so used to it that it would be hard to change (but we will consider all kid requests).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your “50/50” custody arrangement between you and your ex, and how old are your kids? Trying to better understand the ways joint custody works in real life — one week here/one week there? Thurs dinner + alternating weekends? Etc.

You can make up whatever you want you just both have to agree to it.

Thank you, yes. Looking for what the reasonable possibilities are. State default is the thurs night + 1st/3rd/5th weekends each month for non-primary but we would be looking for something more balanced. Just don’t know what’s out there as the designs people have used successfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is on a three four schedule with his ex.

I think I would prefer every other week personally

Does 3-4 mean 3 days at A then 4 at B, then do you do 4-3? Like 3-4-4-3 over two weeks?

[Anonymous]

My kids are older but chose two weeks on/two weeks off even though the paperwork says one week on/one week off.

My oldest primarily lived with me anyway. She didn’t want much to do with her mom.

We don’t fight about custody.

But these are also teenagers.

[Anonymous]

OP again, our kids are 9 and 7, no idea if they’d prefer to switch more often like 3-4 or less often like week on/off. It’s not a sure thing yet I’m just feeling out the options for what it might look like, so it’s not like we can ask them.

[Anonymous]

I'm the Wed-Sat/Sun poster and I really like having set weekdays when I have my kid and don't have my kid. So I schedule late work commitments on nights I don't have my kid and don't need to check the calendar to know whether or not she will be with me. My friend does 3/3, so he ends up having his kid on different nights each week (I think that would be confusing).

I know a lot of people who do a 2/2/5/5, which seems to have the benefit of set days and alternating weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the Wed-Sat/Sun poster and I really like having set weekdays when I have my kid and don't have my kid. So I schedule late work commitments on nights I don't have my kid and don't need to check the calendar to know whether or not she will be with me. My friend does 3/3, so he ends up having his kid on different nights each week (I think that would be confusing).

I know a lot of people who do a 2/2/5/5, which seems to have the benefit of set days and alternating weekends.

Thank you, great point. I’d probably prefer to have set days but doesn’t that mean when you pick them up every Wednesday (in your personal scenario) you have them every Friday night? So one weekend you get them both weekend nights and the next your ex only gets them Saturday night as far as weekend nights go. Is that right?

[Anonymous]

Talk to the kid and ex. You can be creative with time and you can do a rotation that allows for each child to have 1-2 nights alone with each parent and then together as well.

[Anonymous]

Our close friend does: parent A has Mon/Tues, parent B has Wed/Thu, then every other weekend for each. They wanted the same weekdays each week for planning activities, work schedules, etc.

[Anonymous]

Every other week with full weeknight with opposite parent.