predicting how mate will age

[Anonymous]

Some people look great in their 20s and 30s and terrible by 40s, 50s, and 60s. Others age well. Some even look better in their 40s than in their 30s, and I'm not only talking about men - some women, too. Do you think there are any signals or clues when a person's in their 20s or 30s that tell you whether they still look good in 20 years? For example, can you predict whether a potential mate is the type of person who will "let himself go" once he hits 35 or 40 years old?

[Anonymous]

check if the woman stuggles to keep being fat and skin type, olive skin or darker is best

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people look great in their 20s and 30s and terrible by 40s, 50s, and 60s. Others age well. Some even look better in their 40s than in their 30s, and I'm not only talking about men - some women, too. Do you think there are any signals or clues when a person's in their 20s or 30s that tell you whether they still look good in 20 years? For example, can you predict whether a potential mate is the type of person who will "let himself go" once he hits 35 or 40 years old?

I found one of the biggest indicators of how people will look when they age is how much and how consistently they drink alcohol and if they smoke or not.

[Anonymous]

You're asking two different questions. Sometimes you can see things, like bone structure, that indicate that someone is likely to "age well." You can also look at parents, grandparents, and aunts/uncles. But, you know, bodies change -- pregnancy, injuries, etc., and these things aren't always within our control.

It's much harder to tell if someone is likely to stop doing basic self-care when they are older. How much effort does their current appearance involve? Does it require extremely restrictive eating, hours of exercise, expensive treatments? Those things may become harder to maintain if you have kids or other responsibilities. Or are they "naturally" thin or whatever, such that when their metabolism changes, they suddenly have to exert a lot of effort to maintain what used to be effortless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people look great in their 20s and 30s and terrible by 40s, 50s, and 60s. Others age well. Some even look better in their 40s than in their 30s, and I'm not only talking about men - some women, too. Do you think there are any signals or clues when a person's in their 20s or 30s that tell you whether they still look good in 20 years? For example, can you predict whether a potential mate is the type of person who will "let himself go" once he hits 35 or 40 years old?

I found one of the biggest indicators of how people will look when they age is how much and how consistently they drink alcohol and if they smoke or not.

This. Plus sun damage. See the princess Stephanie of Monaco thread. Drinking and smoking catch up with you.

[Anonymous]

I think you can tell a lot by looking at their same-sex parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you can tell a lot by looking at their same-sex parent.

This was my late father’s adage: if you want to see what your potential wife will look like in the future,
look at her mother.

Or, more crassly, make sure she doesn’t do a bait-and switch: gorgeous figure while dating then become obese post-wedding or after children.

[Anonymous]

My wife looks like a clone of her mother at the same age except a few inches taller. Her mother is beautiful at 64 so I am very optimistic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you can tell a lot by looking at their same-sex parent.

This was my late father’s adage: if you want to see what your potential wife will look like in the future,
look at her mother.

Or, more crassly, make sure she doesn’t do a bait-and switch: gorgeous figure while dating then become obese post-wedding or after children.

That can be useful in some instances, but some people look more like their opposite sex parents, so it might be more useful to look at both parents. I don’t look anything like my mom, but everyone has always said that I look just like my dad. So looking at my mom would give you very little insight into how I might age.

[Anonymous]

I look at lifestyle and their parents. Hard living ages you a lot - as does a lot of sun exposure, for example.

[Anonymous]

DH’s father was dead from alcoholism by 50. He was aged by that disease by his 30s. If DH looks like what his dad would have without alcohol addiction, it’s lost on us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:check if the woman stuggles to keep being fat and skin type, olive skin or darker is best

That is not true. I am very fair. I have no wrinkles. I am early 40s. I am mistaken for 10 years younger ALL OF THE TIME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you can tell a lot by looking at their same-sex parent.

Not always. My mom has great skin...but she never exercised. You could never judge how I would age by looking at my mother.

[Anonymous]

Let's see ... might he get some disfiguring disease? He might get skin cancer and have that cut out. It could be his face. Really Op? Are you going to be this shallow and look for assurances?

[Anonymous]

Same sex parent not necessarily indicative at all. My first wife clearly got all of her looks from her dad (not in a bad way necessarily, it was just obvious she looked like the women on HIS side of the family). Her sister looked more like her MOM's family. My current wife looks nothing like her mom either at her age or in general (THANK GOD) but rather looks like her dad's sisters as well (THIS IS A GOOD THING). Also, asian women have more collagen and firmer skin as they age, they do not get as flappy skin hanging around as white women (there is a scientific paper proving this measuring samples of asian and white women but I don't feel like searching it). More anecdotes, my brother looked like he was aging way better than me in our 20s and early 30s but here we are at 40 and the dude now looks about 10 years older me. It's not as easy to predict as some people here are claiming