When to tell DH I think I’m pregnant

[Anonymous]

We just started trying for our 3rd after a long time debating if that was a yes for us. I am pretty sure I am pregnant and almost 6wks by dates and ovulation tracking. I’m honestly nervous to tell him if I’m going to end up with just a miscarriage in another week. I would rather just tell him that was happening then go through the emotional roller coaster that we are having another if we arent. Some of this is me being a little freaked out too and wondering if we made the wrong decision. At the moment I’m feeling like I hope this lasts and I can get excited, but if it doesn’t I’m not sure Iwant to try again.

[Anonymous]

You should absolutely tell your husband ASAP.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him right now. How is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

I waited a week after my positive to tell for our third child. I agree, I was extra nervous for some reason.

[Anonymous]

huh? just tell him right now.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it. Is he your boss? Are you abused? Weirdest post.

[Anonymous]

I also don't get this. I told my husband almost immediately. The main reason people might wait if they want to do make sort of event out of telling, I guess. Why would you wait and see?

[Anonymous]

When we were trying I planned to wait and tell my DH in some cutesy way (I had a onesie from his alma mater hidden in a drawer), but when it actually happened I just ran out of the bathroom with the test in my hand and jumped on him.

I don't think if the worst happens it will be easier for him to find out when you're losing it than to find out now and be happy for a while, but it's up to you.

[Anonymous]

I was always torn about this. When I told him and then miscarried, I felt like I had to manage his feelings too. But if I didn't tell him, I wasn't letting him be an equal partner and I was going through a lot on my own. I always told him but I also always kind of regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Weirdo, you have to tell him. It’s the two of you trying here, not just you.

[Anonymous]

You have to tell him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was always torn about this. When I told him and then miscarried, I felt like I had to manage his feelings too. But if I didn't tell him, I wasn't letting him be an equal partner and I was going through a lot on my own. I always told him but I also always kind of regretted it.

. This exactly OP. Although taking today to process and get excited, looking up cute spouse announcements etc has helped me get in the mind set of believing this is happening. I found some cute ideas that will take me a day or two to put together.

[Anonymous]

What a weird question, you are actively trying!

When we tried for both our first and second, my DH was the one to read the pee stick first.

[Anonymous]

What a weird question.

[Anonymous]

Huh??!! Think you should definitely tell your husband!! I would understand about not letting other people know though because it’s sooo early…