When to tell DH I think I’m pregnant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just started trying for our 3rd after a long time debating if that was a yes for us. I am pretty sure I am pregnant and almost 6wks by dates and ovulation tracking. I’m honestly nervous to tell him if I’m going to end up with just a miscarriage in another week. I would rather just tell him that was happening then go through the emotional roller coaster that we are having another if we arent. Some of this is me being a little freaked out too and wondering if we made the wrong decision. At the moment I’m feeling like I hope this lasts and I can get excited, but if it doesn’t I’m not sure Iwant to try again.

“Pretty sure”? Take a test. Then tell him. I wouldn’t bother telling him you’re “pretty sure” unless you are specifically telling him because you need some kind of emotional support. Tests are easy to come by. Pee on one and then tell him if it’s positive.

[Anonymous]

Maybe take a test now and one again in a few days. See if the line is getting darker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just started trying for our 3rd after a long time debating if that was a yes for us. I am pretty sure I am pregnant and almost 6wks by dates and ovulation tracking. I’m honestly nervous to tell him if I’m going to end up with just a miscarriage in another week. I would rather just tell him that was happening then go through the emotional roller coaster that we are having another if we arent. Some of this is me being a little freaked out too and wondering if we made the wrong decision. At the moment I’m feeling like I hope this lasts and I can get excited, but if it doesn’t I’m not sure Iwant to try again.

“Pretty sure”? Take a test. Then tell him. I wouldn’t bother telling him you’re “pretty sure” unless you are specifically telling him because you need some kind of emotional support. Tests are easy to come by. Pee on one and then tell him if it’s positive.

DH here. This is good advice. If my DW told me she was "pretty sure" I'd ask when she'll be "sure."

[Anonymous]

NP but I asked my husband and he echoed the posted above. He says he wants to know, but when there’s something to know, not something you’re wondering about.

[Anonymous]

Totally understand OP. TTC for the first time (one kid, but a surprise) and he's so optimistic that it's scary to me. He thinks it will happen the first time and will be a non-issue. I have thought about waiting until 8+ weeks to say something for this reason.

[Anonymous]

OP here, just mentioning my gut instinct was correct. While I tested positive at home, and was in fact pregnant for a few weeks, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I told DH when it was clear there was no explaining away the bleeding as implantation based. It was what it was and we’re moving on. He kindly laughed when i told him about this thread and admitted he was relieved that I had waited to tell him given my feelings around the likelihood of the stickiness of the pregnancy. C’est la viv. I am now one month down, and hoping for better odds in the next TWW. Good wishes to all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just mentioning my gut instinct was correct. While I tested positive at home, and was in fact pregnant for a few weeks, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I told DH when it was clear there was no explaining away the bleeding as implantation based. It was what it was and we’re moving on. He kindly laughed when i told him about this thread and admitted he was relieved that I had waited to tell him given my feelings around the likelihood of the stickiness of the pregnancy. C’est la viv. I am now one month down, and hoping for better odds in the next TWW. Good wishes to all.

Sorry OP. Are you totally sure you miscarried? Like you went to a doctor? I had heavy bleeding around weeks 5/6 with both my pregnancies, and both were totally healthy.

Anyway, I don't understand why you are keeping this from your DH, but good luck!

[Anonymous]

WTF kind of thread is this. This is your 3rd pregnancy and you sound like a teenager...