Bathroom protocol
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Anonymous
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Our nanny takes 2 yo into the bathroom with her when she needs to use it. The bathroom is tiny, so the child has very little space to stand and has to be right next to the adult on the toilet. She does it even when there is a parent on the same floor with her (and could watch the toddler for 2 min, we both work from home in the basement office). One of the playrooms is gated, but has a couch and a kids table - both of which the child can climb and fall off from. There is no playpen or place where 2 yo could be placed without anything to climb.
What do people usually do if they don't want the nanny to take the child into the tiny bathroom with her? Gate off a secure area? Establish some sort of agreement that she calls one of the parents to watch the child while she is on bathroom break? Something else? Going to public places (mall, activities) is not part of her job, so they never have to use public restrooms, so seeking advice specifically about the set up at home. |
Anonymous
| I don’t have a problem with my nanny taking my child into a bathroom stall with her, which are usually quite small. It’s either that, or leaving the child outside the stall. Don’t you ever take your child to a public restroom? |
Anonymous
| You sound really uptight and honestly I feel bad for your nanny if this is the level of micromanaging she has to endure. I’m a nanny and parents WAH is seriously horrible and you don’t need to make it worse. I took my kids in the bathroom with me and they learned to potty train early. You should be grateful your nanny cares to have your child supervised at all times! |
Anonymous
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Are you okay with her leaving the child unattended while she goes? I don’t take my toddlers with me. This is tmi but if it’s just pee, I make sure they are safe/entertained and then go. If it’s going to be longer, I let them watch a little video. This may not work for you but it works for me.
I’m a mom and have had a few nannies. I honestly don’t k ow what they did, as I was at work. But they never approached me so they figured something out that worked for them. |
Anonymous
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When I was a SAHM to my toddler, I would take her to the bathroom with me and then also make her use her portable potty in the bathroom. This is how I toilet trained my own kid without leaving her alone when she was little and I had to use the bathroom.
The nanny is in the same position. She is human and needs to go to the bathroom multiple times during the day. She cannot leave the kid alone and she cannot disturb you WFH parents either. I think there can be some workarounds if you do not want your toddler in the same bathroom as her when she is pooping or changing her tampons. 1) Give her the larger bathroom for her use so the baby is not in close proximity to her when she is using the bathroom 2) Build in some bathroom breaks into her day, when you can relieve her for 15 minutes or so. Let her know that you will take care of the baby in that period. 3) Build a secure playpen where the nanny can leave the kid for 15 minute. Maybe the playpen can be close to where you work so you can keep an eye. Wow! So you guys are WFH and you don't get tempted to spend even some time with your kid or give a break to the nanny? Well, I am sure your kid inhaling the nanny's aerosolized poop particles is not the worst problem in the kid's life. The nanny is fulfilling the role of the parent and so it is A-ok if she is doing what moms all around the world do - leave their kid in the crib when they are immobile or take them in the bathroom with them. |
Anonymous
| Wait, I was supposed to take my kids into the bathroom with me when they were 2? Oh hell no. By 2, they were able to be unsupervised for a few minutes. My house wasn't crazy babyproofed, but enough that they could be alone for short periods of time. |
Anonymous
We are not talking about parents + kid outings, and we're not talking about public restrooms. These are not part of the question I asked. OP. |
Anonymous
I feel bad for your employers, you're rude and have bad judgement making stupid assumptions. |
Anonymous
OP here, and I am totally with you. But DH is safety-paranoid and thinks that even 1 min is not acceptable alone in the off chance something happens... |
Anonymous
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Our nanny always takes now three-year-old into the small powder room with her. I really don’t see the problem. He always wants to go with her and with me and DH.
Some of you are weird. |
Anonymous
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Nanny here. I have always taken my charges into the bathroom with me to urinate. (In 15 years I have never needed to poop in my employer’s homes). I wear long shirts so I can pee modestly. My charges always want to go with me even if their parents are sitting right there.
My charges all potty trained by 23 months. All of them. Relieving oneself is natural and part of life. |
Anonymous
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You can’t have a real job if you are seriously suggesting that it would be okay for Nanny to interrupt you whenever she has to pee. That’s incredibly disruptive (and would probably get her fired in any other family).
Your kid would also have to transition caregivers multiple times a day, which can be tough and time consuming. |
Anonymous
+1. OP is way too uptight. She’s going to freak out when she sees how the kids line up to pee/poop in preschool. |
Anonymous
My boss said I should take the kids in the bathroom with me and was delighted I’d have them sit on the potty while I went potty. Youngest trained at 17 months. |
Anonymous
| Lmaooooooooo my boss is the president of a company I can only imagine if I asked her to watch the kids every town I go pee!! I drink a lot of water and would be fired by noon. Look after your own kids, op. |