My wife has bad breath.

Anonymous
My wife has halitosis, and she is not the type of person who takes hearing stuff like that very well. At all. She brushes her teeth with a regular tooth brush but that’s about it as far as oral hygiene goes. And drinks a lot of wine, so she has this very winey type of bad breath all the time. But she takes things like this VERY personally. She gets angry. She would absolutely not see it as me doing something good for her. I do t know what to do.
Anonymous
Model the behavior you want from her--i.e. get fancy toothbrush and use it in front of her followed by flossing and mouthwash. Comment on how clean and fresh your teeth, mouth, breath feels & smells and tell her to try it out. She might not realize she has a problem but perhaps showing her the benefits of a little extra effort might entice her to try additional care activities?
Anonymous
Buy two tongue scrapers. Use one and tell her “This is amazing! I didn’t think I had bad breath, but my mouth tastes so much fresher now.”
Anonymous
Floss/waterpik, tongue scraper and check for tonsil stones. You need to tell her.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Floss/waterpik, tongue scraper and check for tonsil stones. You need to tell her.


+ 1
Waterpik - Add hydrogen peroxide in the water of the waterpik.
Tongue Scraper - Use a copper one from Amazon. Periodically clean it with lemon juice/vinegar and salt
Tonsil stone remover - Airgoesin from Amazon is pretty good.

This is what Tonsils Stones look like.


Anonymous
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Did you recently buy a hot pink shirt?


Yes. With white polka dots.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Floss/waterpik, tongue scraper and check for tonsil stones. You need to tell her.


NP. Agree. OP, she may not take things like this well, as you note, but if YOU smell it, others smell it too. If/when she goes back to an office to work or gets out more or goes back to....PTA, activites, whatever, this is going to be noticed and someone may tell her in a less kind way than you would.

I would approach it as "maybe there's a medical or dental issue" and go from there. Do the things above for sure too, but when was she last at the dentist? Do you share the same dentist/hygenist and if so, do you know them well enough to call and prep them to talk to her about halitosis or health reasons for bad breath? I know our shared dentist and hygenist well after 30 years and if I called them and said DH had awful breath and could they talk about it without bringing me into it -- as if they noticed it themselves-- frankly, they'd do that. Can you try it? Or does she also refuse to go to the dentist?

And look up how bad breath can be a symptom of a LOT of different issues like digestive problems and more. Your DW might shrug and say "it's just wine breath" but the health angle is maybe a way to push her to hear from a professional that her breath stinks. And, well, it really could be a health problem that needs diagnosing.
Anonymous
You should take a shower before she tosses your salad.
Anonymous
Therabreath mouthwash.
Anonymous
+1 to that it could be a health issue (hopefully not, but good to ask about in case).
Anonymous
If I was supposed to be kissing a person who had very bad breath I would either have to have a very honest conversation with them about it until it was resolved, no matter what their reaction to that might be, or I would have to just not ever kiss them and deal with the fallout from that. There is no in between for me.
Anonymous
Does she have a drinking problem?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Floss/waterpik, tongue scraper and check for tonsil stones. You need to tell her.


+ 1
Waterpik - Add hydrogen peroxide in the water of the waterpik.
Tongue Scraper - Use a copper one from Amazon. Periodically clean it with lemon juice/vinegar and salt
Tonsil stone remover - Airgoesin from Amazon is pretty good.

This is what Tonsils Stones look like.




This is so gross. I did not know this shit even existed. Just get a divorce. Ew.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Floss/waterpik, tongue scraper and check for tonsil stones. You need to tell her.


+ 1
Waterpik - Add hydrogen peroxide in the water of the waterpik.
Tongue Scraper - Use a copper one from Amazon. Periodically clean it with lemon juice/vinegar and salt
Tonsil stone remover - Airgoesin from Amazon is pretty good.

This is what Tonsils Stones look like.




This is so gross. I did not know this shit even existed. Just get a divorce. Ew.


It is the grossest smelling thing and you can smell that on people who have them because they have the grossest breath. If you smoosh the throat stones the smell is horrible. It smells like stinkly horse dung.
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