Feel awkward at gender reveal party

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how to put into words, but we are the only family that happen to have kids of opposite genders among friends. Some of my and DH friend only wants and have one kid, and some tried for second hoping an opposite gender but ended up with same gender. Many especially love my little one because it is a she and that is some of them wants. Except saying congratulation to their second pregnancy, and hearing that telling me they were really hoping for a girl, I really have no words to say/respond back. I feel sometimes a bit awkward at their gender reveal party because they are so obviously disappointed. Well, that’s nothing I can do, and I think some of them are thinking to try for the third. What would you have responded back to your friends when they say I am so lucky to have different gender kids? And, they do love to play with my little girl everytime we meet up, only good thing is my older boy loves to play with their mostly boys.

[Anonymous]

I am so lucky to have different gender kids?

We feel fortunate.

[Anonymous]

This is easy: skip the party.

[Anonymous]

Do the parents have no hint or clue of the gender until gender reveal party?

[Anonymous]

I'd respond that I'm grateful to live in a country that values girls as much as boys.

Many third-world or patriarchal countries such as South Asian ones - do not.

[Anonymous]

Don’t go to sex revel parties. Simple. We have no clue what the child’s gender will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is easy: skip the party.

+1

In generally, I think "gender" (it's actual sex!) reveal parties are super yucky. Lots of stereotyping and weirdness that is not my jam. Football or tutus? Pink or blue? Dolls or trucks? Um. The fact that people really want to put their kids in a box like this before they're even BORN is crazy to me.

But having a party like this when you have a strong PREFERENCE for one gender over another and actually can be potentially disappointed? That's insane. RSVP no for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy: skip the party.

+1

In generally, I think "gender" (it's actual sex!) reveal parties are super yucky. Lots of stereotyping and weirdness that is not my jam. Football or tutus? Pink or blue? Dolls or trucks? Um. The fact that people really want to put their kids in a box like this before they're even BORN is crazy to me.

But having a party like this when you have a strong PREFERENCE for one gender over another and actually can be potentially disappointed? That's insane. RSVP no for sure.

I agree with all of this. But I would like to add that the whole idea of a gender reveal party makes no sense to me. The only people who give a darn about the gender would be the parents. I have never, ever given a 2nd thought about the gender of a friend or family members child. I am very happy that they are having a child, but who cares whether it’s a boy or a girl? If it is a close friend, my son would play with their daughter, my daughter would play with their son, it just does not matter. And then when the kids get older they make their own friends anyway. OK. Rant over

[Anonymous]

Don't go. But I am actually curious about how much you are projecting onto them. I love having two of the same sex kids.

[Anonymous]

gender reveal parties for a second baby when a parent is really hoping for a particular sex? what a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with all of this. But I would like to add that the whole idea of a gender reveal party makes no sense to me. The only people who give a darn about the gender would be the parents. I have never, ever given a 2nd thought about the gender of a friend or family members child. I am very happy that they are having a child, but who cares whether it’s a boy or a girl? If it is a close friend, my son would play with their daughter, my daughter would play with their son, it just does not matter. And then when the kids get older they make their own friends anyway. OK. Rant over

Same here. Whatever my friends have is fine with me!

[Anonymous]

Gender reveal parties are still stupid.

Skip it or let go of this weird guilt you seem to get at these events.

[Anonymous]

Gender reveal parties could not be more “out”. Skip it for reasons far beyond your concerns. Having a party to reveal your fetus’ genitalia is creepy.

[Anonymous]

What a strange group of friends. Are you American or is this another culture that I’m not really understanding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t go to sex revel parties. Simple. We have no clue what the child’s gender will be.

Oh, go away.