Feel awkward at gender reveal party

[Anonymous]

Some of you really need to lighten up.

OP, I am in the camp that believes gender reveal parties are a little silly, because truly, no one cares about the gender of someone else's child except the couple involved and maybe the grandparents (maybe.) It's way too much attention-seeking, post-on-IG for my taste. But whatever - if this is what your crowd is into, so be it.

There is no reason for you to feel awkward. Presumably, the parents are mature adults (?) and can handle the momentary flash of disappointment they may experience during this public gender reveal. If they really can't, they are foolish to stage this in the first place. Just wait until the baby is born and announce then if you have a boy or girl. You can deal with your feelings in private and by then, you'll be so in love with your baby you won't care.

[Anonymous]

Gender reveals are dumb as a rule, and incredibly stupid and potentially hurtful if one parent has a strong gender preference.

Get better friends, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a strange group of friends. Are you American or is this another culture that I’m not really understanding?

I think it is a White American thing. I have never seen this kind of party anywhere in the world and I have lived in 7 countries and 4 continents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t go to sex revel parties. Simple. We have no clue what the child’s gender will be.

Oh, go away.

NP here and no. People are allowed to have their opinions and, in this case, I completely agree. All those parties reveal is the genitalia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gender reveals are dumb as a rule, and incredibly stupid and potentially hurtful if one parent has a strong gender preference.

Get better friends, OP.

+1 Just decline. These are so dumb.

[Anonymous]

It's less convenient for clothes shopping and while kids are individuals same sex siblings seem to be easier to manage for activities. Its easier to have active boys all weekend or girls who want to play dress up all day inside. It seems like that with families I know but single child kids buck the gender stereotypes a bit more (or maybe they feel more free to do so).

[Anonymous]

OP relax, I don’t think this is a big deal. TBH I thought people preferred to have same sex kids… people are just being nice and complementing… I doubt anyone actually cares about you having different gender kids.

[Anonymous]

First, people who are going to be visibly disappointed if they have one outcome versus the other shouldn't be having gender (really sex) reveal parties. This makes it super awkward for guests.

Second, if someone says that you are so lucky to have a girl, you say "uh hum." and then switch the subject. What else can you say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's less convenient for clothes shopping and while kids are individuals same sex siblings seem to be easier to manage for activities. Its easier to have active boys all weekend or girls who want to play dress up all day inside. It seems like that with families I know but single child kids buck the gender stereotypes a bit more (or maybe they feel more free to do so).

Uh... not all same sex siblings share the same interests. This is incredibly stereotypical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how to put into words, but we are the only family that happen to have kids of opposite genders among friends. Some of my and DH friend only wants and have one kid, and some tried for second hoping an opposite gender but ended up with same gender. Many especially love my little one because it is a she and that is some of them wants. Except saying congratulation to their second pregnancy, and hearing that telling me they were really hoping for a girl, I really have no words to say/respond back. I feel sometimes a bit awkward at their gender reveal party because they are so obviously disappointed. Well, that’s nothing I can do, and I think some of them are thinking to try for the third. What would you have responded back to your friends when they say I am so lucky to have different gender kids? And, they do love to play with my little girl everytime we meet up, only good thing is my older boy loves to play with their mostly boys.

I think your friends should feel awkward for having gender reveal parties. Hello narcissm

[Anonymous]

Response: “Once that baby is in your arms, you can’t imagine anything different.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a strange group of friends. Are you American or is this another culture that I’m not really understanding?

I think it is a White American thing. I have never seen this kind of party anywhere in the world and I have lived in 7 countries and 4 continents.

I am a White American and I don’t know anyone that has ever done this. I think it’s a narrow age band and maybe a regional thing? I think they are super weird.

[Anonymous]

I agree, skip the party. Congratulate the parents after they announce the results.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t go to sex revel parties. Simple. We have no clue what the child’s gender will be.

Oh, go away.

NP here and no. People are allowed to have their opinions and, in this case, I completely agree. All those parties reveal is the genitalia.

And the parents' bad taste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't go. But I am actually curious about how much you are projecting onto them. I love having two of the same sex kids.

Same!

Same sex siblings have such a special relationship. I am thrilled that all of my children are the same sex and it just so happens that it was what my husband had wished for/saw himself fathering as well.