How to you act towards ones you don’t respect and like?

[Anonymous]

Ignore them, act cordial, meet insults with insults, act passive aggressive, stay out of the way? I have to spend some days with folks I have no respect for, we mutually dislike each other, and have had conflicts in the past. I’ll be with a large group of people and everyone else likes these people.

[Anonymous]

In your case: ignore and avoid. I would simply pretend they are not there and if I start to feel myself getting provoked, excuse myself to go to the bathroom, make a phone call, help clean, etc.

It works in the short term.

[Anonymous]

Since the rest of the group likes these people, anything but polite and friendly will reflect poorly on you.

[Anonymous]

Avoid as much as possible but keep any unavoidable interactions polite, very brief and civil.

[Anonymous]

Distant and polite. And very careful.

[Anonymous]

Yes, distant and polite. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

I don't communicate with that person directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore them, act cordial, meet insults with insults, act passive aggressive, stay out of the way? I have to spend some days with folks I have no respect for, we mutually dislike each other, and have had conflicts in the past. I’ll be with a large group of people and everyone else likes these people.

What did they do to you OP?

Your answer will help us gauge what you should do, and answer your question more accurately.

Is it a real slight, or a perceived slight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore them, act cordial, meet insults with insults, act passive aggressive, stay out of the way? I have to spend some days with folks I have no respect for, we mutually dislike each other, and have had conflicts in the past. I’ll be with a large group of people and everyone else likes these people.

What did they do to you OP?

Your answer will help us gauge what you should do, and answer your question more accurately.

Is it a real slight, or a perceived slight?

She's a SAHM.

Her husband only earns 220k/year.

They live in an apartment and drive cheap cars.

They are part of a dangerous political party.

[jsmith123]

I am only in control of my own behavior, so I try to act in a way that I won't regret later on. If avoidance isn't possible, I'm polite.

I also always try to remind myself of the saying: "Never argue with a crazy person. Onlookers won't know the difference."

[Anonymous]

I'm cordial. Like Pp said, distant but polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore them, act cordial, meet insults with insults, act passive aggressive, stay out of the way? I have to spend some days with folks I have no respect for, we mutually dislike each other, and have had conflicts in the past. I’ll be with a large group of people and everyone else likes these people.

What did they do to you OP?

Your answer will help us gauge what you should do, and answer your question more accurately.

Is it a real slight, or a perceived slight?

She's a SAHM.

Her husband only earns 220k/year.

They live in an apartment and drive cheap cars.

They are part of a dangerous political party.

LOL what?! This must be a joke

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Distant and polite. And very careful.

This.

I have to maintain a relationship of some sorts with a deceased relative’s X to keep the kid in our lives. I have him muted on FB and therefore don’t have to see his Trump-fellating posts. Once every couple months, I post asking about his DD and offering to take her out.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous:


She's a SAHM.

Her husband only earns 220k/year.

They live in an apartment and drive cheap cars.

They are part of a dangerous political party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous:


She's a SAHM.

Her husband only earns 220k/year.

They live in an apartment and drive cheap cars.

They are part of a dangerous political party.

Why don’t you just post my name and address while you are on here?