Choosing the sex of a transfer if already doing genetic testing
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Anonymous
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I'm looking for perspectives from people who have done IVF with genetic testing: did you select the sex of your embryos for transfer?
We are doing genetic testing for age reasons and will be able to find out the sex. The sex has never been that important to me. In fact, part of me is tempted to merely ask the doctor to place the best-looking embryo. In the event we are able to have two children, perhaps my ideal would be one of each. But this journey to even getting pregnant has been so difficult I am not going to tempt fate at this point. Did you choose? Leave it to the embryologist? What went into your decision? Anything that you regretted later? Thanks. |
Anonymous
| I would ask them to choose the best looking one. I don’t think I could make the choice. I’d always feel like I “turned away my son/daughter” even though I know that sounds silly. |
Anonymous
| All of my healthy embryos came back the same gender, and I was relieved not to choose, but I was leaning towards choosing regardless for family balancing purposes, particularly since dh and I are not really planning to have more kids after this. |
Anonymous
| My embryos were heavily skewed towards one sex, like I had four of one sex and one of the other. For my first transfer I chose the sex that I had the most of, that way, if it did not take, I wouldn’t feel like I lost my only chance for the sex I only had one of. I was worried it being my first transfer I may find some other infertility issue related to implantation during the process that led to failure. Does that make sense? I want more than one and ideally different genders, so that factored into my decision as well. |
Anonymous
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Timely question. We don’t know the gender, but we have 5 normals that all day 5 and have the same grade. We were all about not choosing, but now it’s a bit weird that someone else will choose and it won’t be based on quality, since they are all the same. We asked the clinic how they would choose and we are waiting to hear back.
Although honestly I don’t really have a gender preference so we will probably just make them pick. |
Anonymous
Was it a fresh transfer? |
Anonymous
| Mom of a boy #1 and girl #2 here, I would pick a girl if you ever want to feel like having another child. There are some crazy girl babies, but boys will run you ragged 100%. |
Anonymous
This is ridiculous and not helpful towards OPs question. Signed, mother of an extremely calm, easy 6 year old boy who slept 12 hours through the night starting at 9 weeks and spends much of the day quietly reading. |
Anonymous
| If you don’t have a preference I would go with whoever looks healthiest. |
Anonymous
Personally, I needed a VERY large gap. Most of my friends with boys were the same. Obviously I don't know you, but not a single friend with a boy had an easy go of it. |
Anonymous
| We have multiple male embryos and one female. Female one was ranked the lowest in genetic testing (unsure about grading). Doctor said to let them know if we have a sex preference. Shouldn’t they advise against going with the female? |
Anonymous
PP here- No, I did a frozen embryo transfer after two retrievals. |
Anonymous
What do you mean by ranked lowest? Was the female mosaic? |
Anonymous
Np here. +1 to the bolded. They're out there. Another with a very cool, calm, collected boy (now 12) whose circle of friends are boys with similar demeanors. And having gone through the struggles of conceiving, it's dumb as hell that people think someone's "want to feel like having another child" would be based on a child's personality. |
Anonymous
| I thought i recall that having a boy can make secondary infertility more likely? If you want more than one, i would go for a girl first. |