Ask or rescind RSVP?

[Anonymous]

We’re invited to a wedding this summer that’s no kids. Fine by me, we’ll get a babysitter...except the baby who was a newborn when we were invited will no longer take a bottle. We’re obviously going to keep trying to get him to take one, but should we (1) ask if it would be okay to bring him (he’ll be six months, this is DH’s cousin’s wedding); (2) change our RSVP to just DH and I’ll stay home with the kids, or (3) not change anything and I’ll just not show up last minute if he still won’t take a bottle?

(Obviously the baby won’t starve to death if he refuses to take a bottle for six hours, but it would be unpleasant for all involved so I don’t consider “leave him with the babysitter anyway” a live option.)

[Anonymous]

2.

They'll need to have numbers before hand.

[Anonymous]

2.

Don’t ask if you can bring a baby to a wedding that said no kids. I have kids and I think that’s terrible.

Don’t RSVP and not show. They paid for you. It’s his cousin. Have him go alone.

[Anonymous]

2

[Anonymous]

Dont bring a baby to a wedding. We had one screaming during the entire ceremony.

[Anonymous]

He'll take a bottle by summer. Don't worry.

[Anonymous]

I really think you should be able to get the baby to take a bottle by then, but another option is for you to skip the wedding and just go to the reception for a couple hours. Then baby would only have to be without you for 2-3 hours instead of six.

[Anonymous]

My baby stopped taking a bottle and never took one again, so it's not unreasonable to assume he still won't be taking one.

Your post doesn't say if you have other kids or not, or where the wedding is in relation to where you live.

I know people who have rented a hotel room nearby and had the baby sitter come. Then you can feed the baby between the ceremony and reception.

But I would only go to this kind of trouble if the wedding were super important to me. Otherwise I'd probably just skip it and send DH.

[Anonymous]

Definitely 2. Don’t be no-shows. That’s disappointing for and inconsiderate to the couple getting married. And DO NOT ask if you can bring the baby!

[Anonymous]

Is this a local wedding? You don’t have to stay for the entire wedding. Just make an appearance.

I would probably just do 2. It is dh’s cousin. I don’t think anyone will care if you are there or not.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not 1 or 3.
If you can work out reasonable logistics to feed baby between ceremony and reception, or drive separately from DH and leave reception early, then I’d probably do that.
Otherwise, 2.

[Anonymous]

6 hours will be fine if baby doesn’t eat.

[Anonymous]

Don’t you have time to see if he will take a bottle again? Plus at 6 months there is a good chance he’d be able to use a sippy cup.

I also agree that you should still be able to put on an appearance at least, even if he isn’t back on a bottle.

[Anonymous]

At six months, baby will start eating solids, so not the end of the world. Maybe choose avocado as a first food because it's really satiating with good fats.

Also some babies who won't take a bottle will drink out of a sippy cup or even a regular cup or spoons or a medicine dropper. And for some, the milk temperature really matters, so try cold, room temp, and warm before giving up.

[Anonymous]

Meh.