Ask or rescind RSVP?

[Anonymous]

We had a no kids wedding because the venue wasn’t kid friendly. Also most of my bridal party had kids, which would have added 14 people to our (small) guest list. One of my friends begged me twice to allow her to bring her 1-year-old. It was really awkward to have to say no (we offered to provide babysitting on or off site). We all got over it but she was pissed and I was annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: well, this was on my mind and I mentioned it to my MIL when we saw her, and she said nursing babies are fine with the bride. I’m still going to work towards being able to leave him home, but it’s a relief to have this settled.

You are relying on the groom's aunt for this information? I would definitely get confirmation of that. This could end very poorly.

No, the bride’s aunt, who apparently asked the bride. She’s closer with her nieces than she is with me so I trust the info. (That said I do want to leave the baby home, not least because the dress I want to wear isn’t nursing friendly.)

[Anonymous]

And before anyone gets on me about being rude, the conversation went something like this:

Me: “DH, it occurs to me that we may have an issue with Cousin’s wedding since Baby isn’t taking a bottle any more.”
MIL: “Oh, nursing babies are fine.”
Me: “Are you sure? I thought it was no kids.”
MIL: “Yeah, definitely. I can confirm if you want.”

So she did.

[Anonymous]

By 6 months baby will be starting to experiment with solids and will in all likelihood be taking a bottle. I had a bottle averse baby and he finally took one by 4.5 months. Also, since it sounds local, you could always go for 2-3 hours and let DH stay later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

So rude!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son's daycare used an open cup (think a small two oz cup) for him at 6 months because he refused to take a bottle. Pay the babysitter a little extra if you think it's going to be a terribly unpleasant experience, but honestly, 6 hours is ok and they can supplement with other foods/cereals, etc. Make a fortified cereal with breastmilk and spoonfeed.

It makes me sad that so many people think it's the woman's responsibility to miss out on a family event because she's breastfeeding than think creatively about possible solutions.

I said the woman should miss because it is the husband's relative. If it was the woman's, I would want dad to stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: well, this was on my mind and I mentioned it to my MIL when we saw her, and she said nursing babies are fine with the bride. I’m still going to work towards being able to leave him home, but it’s a relief to have this settled.

Ask the bride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

+1

I did this with my twins. People were excited to see them and helped me carry them and everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

+1

I did this with my twins. People were excited to see them and helped me carry them and everything

No one was excited to see them. They helped you with them as a favor to the couple getting married, because they knew you couldn’t handle them on your own and didn’t want the babies to ruin the special day.

[Anonymous]

What is the rsvp "by" date? Honor that. Make the best decision, you can, on that date.

And obviously do not take the baby to the wedding. If your DH goes alone, so be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And before anyone gets on me about being rude, the conversation went something like this:

Me: “DH, it occurs to me that we may have an issue with Cousin’s wedding since Baby isn’t taking a bottle any more.”
MIL: “Oh, nursing babies are fine.”
Me: “Are you sure? I thought it was no kids.”
MIL: “Yeah, definitely. I can confirm if you want.”

So she did.

It’s because she wants her grandchild at the wedding , and wants to show him/her off. So she called the bride and made a thing of it, and the bride, annoyed, relented. Just so you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just bring baby to the wedding if you can’t ge him to take a bottle by then. Just bring the stroller to rock him to sleep + noise machine. I’ve done it at many gatherings and no one cares

+1

I did this with my twins. People were excited to see them and helped me carry them and everything

I’m sure the bride was thrilled that everyone was so excited to see the little kids that she specifically didn’t invite to her wedding.

[Anonymous]

I think option #2 is of course the most ideal option to take.

Is there any possible way that you can contact the hosts + let them know of your unique plight?
This may be something that can actually be worked out.

Good luck‼️

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to go, OP, use the baby as an excuse. Sned your husband and a nice gift, and enjoy not having to bring a baby to a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Babies are cute. Bring him