Worried we (mainly Shiite) crossed boundary with nanny

[Anonymous]

Our nanny took the day off today for a Uti. I of course was fine with this and it was easier for dh to take off so he stayed with the kids today. I was chatting about the day with my kids and my dd said she watched a show with nanny. I asked dh and he said daughter kept going down to visit her and check on her and she watched tv with her while he was on a call. He said he texted her and she said “I don’t mind at all, I enjoy the company.” But I really feel we over stepped and feel awful. I can’t take back the day and I will explain to nanny that we realize this was wrong and we don’t disturb her like this again when she is off. Is there anything else I can do? The nanny is very open with her space and invites kids into her area often so I can see why dd felt ok going down there but still feel awful. Dh is baffled because he texted her and she said it was fine, I worry she felt like she had to say that.

[Anonymous]

Your subject heading is confusing.

That said, I wouldn't tie myself into knots about it; apologize for intruding on her day off, and don't do it again.

[Anonymous]

She needs a lock. Was it unlocked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny took the day off today for a Uti. I of course was fine with this and it was easier for dh to take off so he stayed with the kids today. I was chatting about the day with my kids and my dd said she watched a show with nanny. I asked dh and he said daughter kept going down to visit her and check on her and she watched tv with her while he was on a call. He said he texted her and she said “I don’t mind at all, I enjoy the company.” But I really feel we over stepped and feel awful. I can’t take back the day and I will explain to nanny that we realize this was wrong and we don’t disturb her like this again when she is off. Is there anything else I can do? The nanny is very open with her space and invites kids into her area often so I can see why dd felt ok going down there but still feel awful. Dh is baffled because he texted her and she said it was fine, I worry she felt like she had to say that.

If nanny has day off, she should have the day off. Meaning, leave here alone.

However, I am confused about how being Shiite comes into play with a nanny with urinary tract infection. Unless I am misreading something...

[Anonymous]

Pay her for the time dd was down there. Your dh is clueless, and he shouldn’t have asked her if she could watch dd on her day off.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused by your title

[Anonymous]

The sectarian part of your subject aside, it’s good you recognize this wasn’t the right thing to do and it’s a good idea to apologize and tell sh it doesn’t matter if he understands/agree but that you’re 100% sure you are right and he shouldn’t ever do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the time dd was down there. Your dh is clueless, and he shouldn’t have asked her if she could watch dd on her day off.

This.

[Anonymous]

Not clear how religion plays into this. Is the nanny a different religion? Are there different customs in your respective religions regarding days off?

[Anonymous]

NP. My theory - I think “Shiite” instead of “DH” wins the award for weirdest autocorrect ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not clear how religion plays into this. Is the nanny a different religion? Are there different customs in your respective religions regarding days off?

Maybe the DH alone with nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. My theory - I think “Shiite” instead of “DH” wins the award for weirdest autocorrect ever.

Aha! I bet you're right!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. My theory - I think “Shiite” instead of “DH” wins the award for weirdest autocorrect ever.

I think so too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the time dd was down there. Your dh is clueless, and he shouldn’t have asked her if she could watch dd on her day off.

This.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay her for the time dd was down there. Your dh is clueless, and he shouldn’t have asked her if she could watch dd on her day off.

This.

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