Vacations in Relationship

[Anonymous]

I'm in a committed relationship that's about six months in. I feel hurt that he schedules a vacation for next year without discussing it with me or inviting me. Should I be or am I taking it too seriously?

[Anonymous]

Who is he going with?

[Anonymous]

eh yeah not a great sign

need more details though

if it's like a guys trip to go see some sports event that's one thing

[Anonymous]

Need more details.

[Anonymous]

We need more details! Is it a guys trip, a family trip, mixed (gender) friends trip, a solo trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need more details! Is it a guys trip, a family trip, mixed (gender) friends trip, a solo trip?

A trip with him and his son. He's going with some family friends.

[Anonymous]

Way too soon for him to invite you for a trip with his son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more details! Is it a guys trip, a family trip, mixed (gender) friends trip, a solo trip?

A trip with him and his son. He's going with some family friends.

Who are the family friends? Other men? Couples? Single women?

[Anonymous]

He should have discussed with you at the very least. This would be a red flag for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should have discussed with you at the very least. This would be a red flag for me.

It is a vacation with his son. Absolutely no reason to discuss with OP. He told OP about a trip next year.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's anything wrong with planning a trip with your kids that does not include a boy/girl friend. In fact, I think that's probably a good move if the relationship is in the first year. What does he need to discuss with you?

[Anonymous]

He should be discussed it with you. But I agree it is way too son to be inviting you on a trip with his kid.

[Anonymous]

Eh, I wouldn't feel great about it. I think it's a sign that he is compartmentalizing your relationship, if nothing else. I think you should have a talk to him about it - and if you don't feel comfortable having that talk, it's also not a great sign about the relationship.

There would be absolutely nothing wrong with him taking a trip with his kid. I think the problem is if it's leaving you feel unsettled, that isn't a feeling to be ignored - it probably indicates that you feel like the relationship isn't as solid or as (excuse the word) holistic as you would want it to be. You can either talk about it and try to change that, or resolve it, or take it as a sign that this isn't the relationship you want to be in.

Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should have discussed with you at the very least. This would be a red flag for me.

It is a vacation with his son. Absolutely no reason to discuss with OP. He told OP about a trip next year.

But it’s a group vacation. Not just father son. We need to know who else is going.

[Anonymous]

You guys are crazy. No need to discuss this with her after just six months, when it is a year away and involves his son. They are not married or even living together.

I am in a similar relationship and I barely even mentioned a trip I am taking this August.