Stillbirth - gift for nurses/doctors

[Anonymous]

Hi all,

I had a stillbirth at GW this week. It was a completely traumatizing and life changing experience. One of the only things that helped my husband and I through the process were the amazing nurses and my OB helping us. I wanted to send a gift or a thank you card but I wasn't sure what was appropriate? Anyone have experience giving gifts to their nurses/doctors.

[Anonymous]

I have no suggestion, but wanted t say I am so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Hugs O. I hope you get to spend some time on your own healing.

A heartfelt note explaining what the nurses’ and OB’s treatment meant to you would be wonderful.

[Anonymous]

I’m really sorry, OP. I’m sure they would appreciate a heartfelt card but take care of yourself first and don’t feel like it is necessary. Big hugs.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP. I think a card would mean a lot. No need to send anything else.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry for your loss.
Most hospitals send out a survey of care (and if they don't because of your circumstances you can call and ask to speak to someone regarding what you would say). Mentioning people and services by name gets them recognition and the units really do take these things seriously. Like very serious. You are much better doing that than sending something.

Most units are not accepting outside food, even wrapped, and going to get a bunch of physical gift cards and mailing them with details for who they go to would be a lot. Often the hospital website can give you information about who to contact.

Again. So sorry for your loss

[Anonymous]

I used to work in an ICU with very sick patients. The doctors and nurses definitely will not expect anything from you and will want you to be resting during this time. If you’re up for writing a note, that’s something they would surely appreciate.

[Anonymous]

I think a note would be absolutely appreciated.

Sending hugs. I’m sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no suggestion, but wanted t say I am so sorry.

Same.

[Anonymous]

I’m so so sorry

[Anonymous]

I’m so so sorry for your loss OP. Sending thought and prayers.

I think a heartfelt note will be plenty and the most important thing is focusing on your recovery. If you wanted to do more, you could send in food. One of my children was born extremely premature and in the NICU for almost 4 months. I couldn’t have made it though without the doctors and nurses. To show my thanks I would bring bagels/coffee, have deli sandwich platters sent, etc. They seemed to really appreciate this. Not sure with covid if it’s still allowed...

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP.

When it happened to us we sent a bagel & related items platter from a local deli to the L&D unit with a note of appreciation. I don’t know if there are any issues doing that during Covid, but I know it helped us to feel like we could show our appreciation for their compassion and everything they did to lead us through this completely unexpected nightmare.

Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. Hugs to you.