Stillbirth - gift for nurses/doctors

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry, OP. Loss is incredibly traumatizing, please be kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

I’m very sorry. You are so kind to think of and appreciate the medical staff at a time like this and I’m sure a card with your thoughts would be greatly appreciated. I’m in a different field in medicine and have gotten a few such cards and they are truly so meaningful and touching. However, if it seems daunting to figure out what to say or you just can’t get it together don’t give it a second thought.

[Anonymous]

Praying for you OP. I'm so sorry. I think a card would mean the most.

[Anonymous]

I am so, so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

I am a nurse (not OB) and I'm sorry for your shocking loss.

I take care of a lot of people who ultimately die. I think I speak for 99% of my colleagues when I say that a gift is entirely unnecessary and unexpected.

A note would also be really uncommon BUT I personally am touched when families do express appreciation in writing.

Be well.

[Anonymous]

A simple thank you card to nurses and something edible (bagels, a box of chocolates, or similar) would be great and much appreciated.

Probably send a separate one to the obgyn as not sure he/ she will see it unless they are hospital based.

[Anonymous]

You are amazing that you are thinking of others right now. You are a very strong person. I'm not sure what would be appropriate, but maybe just a note to let them know how much you appreciate them.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. Sending you so much love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m really sorry, OP. I’m sure they would appreciate a heartfelt card but take care of yourself first and don’t feel like it is necessary. Big hugs.

Exactly this.

I’m so sorry, OP. Take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry for your loss, OP. Sending you strength during this difficult time <3

[Anonymous]

I am so, so sorry for your loss. It’s so incredibly traumatic. I also understand feeling gratitude for those who took care of you during a difficult time.
When I had a medical trauma several years ago, there was an angel-like soul who went above and beyond for me. I’ll never forget her. A week or so after my trauma, I brought flowers and a hand written note to where she worked and asked someone to give it to her. I think it’s important to do these kind of things, and in your case, I’m sure a heartfelt note would be something important for you to do, and special for the people on the receiving end.

[Anonymous]

I am so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you.

I agree with the above that a note to the hospital staff would mean the world to them.

[Anonymous]

So Sorry for you. Are you doing ok? do you have a good support system?
A note would be wonderful-but also a huge hug to you.

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am glad that you felt supported by the nurses and doctors through that traumatic experience. I had a stillbirth four years ago at GW. I sent a note.

If you haven't found it yet, there's an online community at www.glowinthewoods.com. There's also a DC-based support group - https://dc-plids.org/aboutcontact.

The early days are so hard. I'm thinking of you and your baby.