Handling rejection in the admissions process

[Anonymous]

This is an interview with a psychologist who I have also heard give a Ted Talk on letting go of work stress. Here he talks about admissions rejection and handling it. It's about 40 minutes long FWIW..

https://blog.spiveyconsulting.com/podcast-with-dr-guy-winch/

[Anonymous]

Sorry, actually commenting without listening.

I think it's much better to not be accepted to all schools. A student can handle rejection. Should have to handle some rejection. It's life. I've never understand parents who express that they are so relieved the student got into all schools. Such low tolerance for any risk taking.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree 8:37.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, actually commenting without listening.

I think it's much better to not be accepted to all schools. A student can handle rejection. Should have to handle some rejection. It's life. I've never understand parents who express that they are so relieved the student got into all schools. Such low tolerance for any risk taking.

How common is that though? If you are applying broadly you would think it almost would never happen.

[Anonymous]

Just frigg'n move on. There are thousands of colleges.

[Anonymous]

^ what do you mean pp, no reach schools?

[Anonymous]

I was more bothered by the rejections than my kids ever were. My boys easily moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was more bothered by the rejections than my kids ever were. My boys easily moved on.

Plus 1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, actually commenting without listening.

I think it's much better to not be accepted to all schools. A student can handle rejection. Should have to handle some rejection. It's life. I've never understand parents who express that they are so relieved the student got into all schools. Such low tolerance for any risk taking.

Life is full of rejections. Applying wisely within your zone and not getting rejected for college is actually nice. But even if you are accepted to your school of choice, maybe you were put in undenied because you applied to CS and it’s an impossible major to get into. Maybe you wanted the Honors College and got regular fall admission. Maybe you got Spring admission rather than Fall. Maybe you got in but the merit scholarship wasn’t high enough. There are a million and one ways to feel some level of rejection even with acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Meant undecided not undenied above.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, unless they are going to Harvard or Stanford, getting in everywhere probably means they could have reached higher with an application or two

[Anonymous]

Why does someone post links to Spivey Consulting every so often? Is it the Spivey person themselves? Stop the spam.

[Anonymous]

Are we walking about the kids handling the rejection or the parents. Parents need to learn to set realistic expectation first which will help to steer the kids through the college admission process. Often time, the kids do just fine without the parents' own insecurities tainting their outlook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does someone post links to Spivey Consulting every so often? Is it the Spivey person themselves? Stop the spam.

They're pretty well known.. I highly doubt it's them posting on DCUM

[Anonymous]

I think a few rejections are not a bad thing.

DC applied ED to a reach, got in and withdrew application from an extreme reach that he would have loved to be admitted to (even thought I'm not sure it would actually have been a good fit).

He was kinda bummed that he never learned results of the extreme reach, and I think getting a rejection (as expected) would have kinda confirmed the value of the reach that he was admitted to. As it was, DC only completed acceptances to two schools (ED and an EA), was accepted to the ED and to the EA with $$$$, so wonders if he should have aimed higher.