Is this annoying? Daughter’s bf always orders so much!
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Anonymous
| We’ve been doing a lot of takeout. We love having our college daughter home but when we order dinner for her bf, he really seems to treat himself. When I got Chick-fil-A the other night, he gets a combo plus another full sandwich. Tonight we are getting Thai and he’s getting an appetizer, entree, and dessert! I mean, I’d love a mango and sticky rice too, but all those extras add up. Is this kind of rude? His order is always the most expensive thing! |
Anonymous
| Very rude! |
Anonymous
| The chic fil a was my standard order through my 20s and costs an extra couple of bucks. The appetizer and dessert (assuming you guys aren’t all sharing a bunch) makes him an ass |
Anonymous
| SIL does this when we go out to eat. lunch or dinner she will order two entrees and one is for her to take home. Guess who’s not footing the bill. SIL is 50 so be prepared to treat your son in law for life if he and your DD get married. |
Anonymous
| It’s a but rude but he’s young. You shouldn’t be ordering takeout with a guest unless you can I begrudgingly let him order what he wants, though. |
Anonymous
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Oh my God, you don’t really track quantity on a fast food order?!
Set some parameters for takeout: “We’re ordering from Thai Palace. Let us know what two entrees you want, and give me ideas for an appetizer to share.” |
Anonymous
| Tell them to go out on date nights more. Stop hosting him. |
Anonymous
| Cut back on take out nights when he is there. |
Anonymous
It’s manners. When I stayed at my then GF’s house, I would try to order last and gauge what to order based on what her parents ordered (and even then, try to stay on the cheap side for entrees). |
Anonymous
I would have said manners is being a magnanimous host and not worrying about what a guest eats. If you genuinely can't afford it, cook a family dinner, but if you can fretting about what someone orders is pretty impolite. |
Anonymous
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The Chick Fil A thing wouldn’t bother me at all, but the Thai thing seems greedy and clueless. Are you sure he and your DD aren’t sharing each other’s food?
As a PP said, set parameters. |
Anonymous
One could argue that you came off as “always ‘on’” and uncomfortable and never part of the family... This is so easily fixed. If you don’t want to host, don’t. If you want to host with some boundaries, set some freaking boundaries. If a young man treats my daughter well and makes her happy, I won’t begrudge him some freaking shrimp. |
Anonymous
| Crappy upbringing. A 12 year old should know that is rude. |
Anonymous
| Your DD was raised by you. Would she do that at someone else's house? Then she should correct her guest. |
Anonymous
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So rude. I dated a guy like this and was always so embarrassed that he always ordered up. He was an ass about it too- he said my parents could afford it. The final straw was him ordering “market price” lobster at a restaurant that cost $95.
I’d say no desserts or drinks. Whatever is your limit. My kids know they get water at restaurants. |