What is the line between proud parent and obnoxious braggy parent?

[Anonymous]

My son is doing a lot of things that make me really proud and I like to share them with the family (mainly grandparents, but sometimes my inlaws too). But I'm sharing so often that I'm starting to wonder if they're getting tired of it. Its hard because in the moment it always seems like a big accomplishment, then when nobody comments on it, I think back like maybe that wasn't as big of a moment as I thought. Am I overthinking it, or should I cut back on sharing these experiences?

[Anonymous]

Once a month.
And be sure you are asking about their lives in between.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is doing a lot of things that make me really proud and I like to share them with the family (mainly grandparents, but sometimes my inlaws too). But I'm sharing so often that I'm starting to wonder if they're getting tired of it. Its hard because in the moment it always seems like a big accomplishment, then when nobody comments on it, I think back like maybe that wasn't as big of a moment as I thought. Am I overthinking it, or should I cut back on sharing these experiences?

Stick with the grandparents. NOT the in-laws, especially if they also have kids.

[Anonymous]

At least in my family, there is no such thing as too much sharing with the grandparents. Outside the family is of course different, and aunts and uncles are probably different, but grandparents want to hear it all (and would be hurt if we didn't share).

[Anonymous]

I share all the good stuff! My daughter is my in-laws' only grand child, so they can't get enough. And my parents are retired and isolated from all their kids, so they can't get enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least in my family, there is no such thing as too much sharing with the grandparents. Outside the family is of course different, and aunts and uncles are probably different, but grandparents want to hear it all (and would be hurt if we didn't share).

Same. My parents and DH's both think that their grandchildren are amazing and can't hear enough about them. Even when we share mundane stuff that is objectively not even close to amazing, they respond as if it is amazing.

[Anonymous]

Yeah my parents want to hear and see as much as they can. I doubt anyone else cares.

[Anonymous]

How old? If its a baby hitting milestones frequently that can be newsworthy. But older kids don't really accomplish that much very often. Are you bragging about every spelling test and math quiz?

[Anonymous]

Intent matters - if it’s comparative and marketi to make them favor your kid.... it feels Bragg. If it’s out of love, bit so much!

[Anonymous]

OP here. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and they are achieving all kinds of milestones: first snowman, Christmas lights, the one year old memorizing books and demanding to "read" them, kids dancing to new songs, sometimes singing new songs or making up new ones, all kinds of stuff. 3 year old is trying to write letters now so that's exciting. But I'm probably overwhelming them, especially the in laws with kids of their own

[Anonymous]

My mom said she wouldn’t buy my son a genius shirt because it was “too close to home”. LOL. Kid is great, but not a genius. Grandparents think their grandkids are amazing, and love anecdotes that prove their point.

On the other hand, people who say, “I can’t believe how gifted Larlo is!” on their social media need to give it a rest. You sound self-aware enough not to be that person, OP.

[Anonymous]

So you're sharing and updating them every time your kid learns a new song?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and they are achieving all kinds of milestones: first snowman, Christmas lights, the one year old memorizing books and demanding to "read" them, kids dancing to new songs, sometimes singing new songs or making up new ones, all kinds of stuff. 3 year old is trying to write letters now so that's exciting. But I'm probably overwhelming them, especially the in laws with kids of their own

A lot of these things are pretty mundane. You don't need to update your in laws every time they learn a new song.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and they are achieving all kinds of milestones: first snowman, Christmas lights, the one year old memorizing books and demanding to "read" them, kids dancing to new songs, sometimes singing new songs or making up new ones, all kinds of stuff. 3 year old is trying to write letters now so that's exciting. But I'm probably overwhelming them, especially the in laws with kids of their own

I think that's ok, it's all new and different and they change so quickly. It will naturally die down in a few years when the accomplishments are spread further apart or something isn't new anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and they are achieving all kinds of milestones: first snowman, Christmas lights, the one year old memorizing books and demanding to "read" them, kids dancing to new songs, sometimes singing new songs or making up new ones, all kinds of stuff. 3 year old is trying to write letters now so that's exciting. But I'm probably overwhelming them, especially the in laws with kids of their own

I think that's ok, it's all new and different and they change so quickly. It will naturally die down in a few years when the accomplishments are spread further apart or something isn't new anymore.

I meant to add this is ok for grandparents who eat this up, but beyond that it's too much. Spare the in-laws.