Kids per bedroom

[Anonymous]

Starting to think about the size of family we will have one day. We have one now and ideally would like three. How common is sharing a room, or do most have a five bedroom home so you can still also have a guest room?
Space for in laws or other visitors is important to me.

What age is room sharing not ideal?

I see a ton of families on the hill with 3 kids and the homes here are generally only 3 beds but sometimes the larger row houses have four beds...therefore I know they must share. Curious on dynamic and any tips!

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I think two to a room would be my max. And after the age of maybe ten, it’s ideal if kids of the same gender don’t have to share a room.

I know not everybody can swing this but my 10yo girl was sharing a room with her little brother and didn’t love it when she started having to wear bras, and I imagine if they were still sharing a room when she got her period a year later it would have been super awkward.

That said, lots of people make all kinds of arrangements work. What works for a family is a combination of culture and privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think two to a room would be my max. And after the age of maybe ten, it’s ideal if kids of the same gender don’t have to share a room.

I know not everybody can swing this but my 10yo girl was sharing a room with her little brother and didn’t love it when she started having to wear bras, and I imagine if they were still sharing a room when she got her period a year later it would have been super awkward.

That said, lots of people make all kinds of arrangements work. What works for a family is a combination of culture and privilege.

Oh but as far as same-gender kids go, I think the limit does not exist. It’s probably a good learning experience.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I agree with pp. I live in NYC and it's not uncommon for mixed gender siblings to share a room until the older one is 11 or so, sometimes longer. My daughter and son share a room and will for a while! They're only 4 and 2. Room sharing with one or even 2 siblings is "normal" here. And we're talking in $1.5 million dollar apartments, so it's not a class thing.

[Anonymous]

One per bedroom unless same gender. Otherwise it just gets weird and awkward during puberty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I agree with pp. I live in NYC and it's not uncommon for mixed gender siblings to share a room until the older one is 11 or so, sometimes longer. My daughter and son share a room and will for a while! They're only 4 and 2. Room sharing with one or even 2 siblings is "normal" here. And we're talking in $1.5 million dollar apartments, so it's not a class thing.

Adding though that I do envision a time when my DD and DS no longer share. But if I'd had 2 boys or 2 girls we probably plan on keeping them together indefinitely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One per bedroom unless same gender. Otherwise it just gets weird and awkward during puberty.

Fine.. But for the 10 or so years leading up to puberty it shouldn't be an issue. There's no reason why a brother and sister can't share as little kids

[Anonymous]

Two kid bedrooms, one with two boys, one with two girls.

If we ever had a fifth, we could swap things around so that the largest group of children had the largest room.

[Anonymous]

They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: How common is sharing a room, or do most have a five bedroom home so you can still also have a guest room?

I think sharing is more common than it was when we were all growing up. Ours shared for about 10 years before we split them up.

[Anonymous]

We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.

[Anonymous]

Just want to say that your genders might not work out easily for room sharing. I had girl, boy, girl. The two girls are 5 years apart. I couldn’t imagine putting a 5 year old who goes to kindergarten with the 12 week old. My 5 and 3 year old would love to share a room though they likely wouldn’t sleep. They bathe together still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it

Agree. Hated sharing a room as a kid. I’m an introvert that needs space. Don’t force this unless your kids want to share rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.

But they wont when they are older. come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it

Agree. Hated sharing a room as a kid. I’m an introvert that needs space. Don’t force this unless your kids want to share rooms.

Well some of us would have taken the sibling over the shared room in a heartbeat. Kinda hard for a parent to gauge the child’s preference before birth.