Kids per bedroom

Anonymous
We have six kids. Two have moved out, though one is staying with us during the pandemic so he's in the guest room.. Three girls share a bedroom. They will share until they go off to college. The youngest, a boy, has his own room.

People act like it's a horrible thing to share a bedroom on here. Because to them, it's a sign of being rich to have many bedrooms in a home so they feel they can brag that way.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it


Agree. Hated sharing a room as a kid. I’m an introvert that needs space. Don’t force this unless your kids want to share rooms.


Well some of us would have taken the sibling over the shared room in a heartbeat. Kinda hard for a parent to gauge the child’s preference before birth.


That’s why you purchase a house that’s got enough bedrooms for everyone. Kids can share if they want or choose not to.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it


Agree. Hated sharing a room as a kid. I’m an introvert that needs space. Don’t force this unless your kids want to share rooms.


Well some of us would have taken the sibling over the shared room in a heartbeat. Kinda hard for a parent to gauge the child’s preference before birth.


That’s why you purchase a house that’s got enough bedrooms for everyone. Kids can share if they want or choose not to.


Nope that is unnecessary.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.


But they wont when they are older. come on.


Sure. Just like you and your husband don't share a bedroom anymore.
Anonymous
My siblings (older sister, younger brother, total age spread of five years) and I shared a bedroom until we were 2, 5, and 8. After that, my parents moved us from an apartment to a house and my sister and I shared a room until she left for college. It was all completely fine. I never wished I had my own room. My sister probably did but she didn’t mention it. We had a perfectly fine childhood.
Anonymous
My sister and I shared a room until I was 12 or 13. I really wanted my own room at that point, so my parents let me move into what had been a den. It was fine, I just really wanted my own space then.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Just want to say that your genders might not work out easily for room sharing. I had girl, boy, girl. The two girls are 5 years apart. I couldn’t imagine putting a 5 year old who goes to kindergarten with the 12 week old. My 5 and 3 year old would love to share a room though they likely wouldn’t sleep. They bathe together still.


I have a friend with four kids and the two boys are 6 years apart and share a room and apparently love it. I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss the idea.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Starting to think about the size of family we will have one day. We have one now and ideally would like three. How common is sharing a room, or do most have a five bedroom home so you can still also have a guest room?
Space for in laws or other visitors is important to me.

What age is room sharing not ideal?

I see a ton of families on the hill with 3 kids and the homes here are generally only 3 beds but sometimes the larger row houses have four beds...therefore I know they must share. Curious on dynamic and any tips!

Thanks!


Most of my friends have 2 kids and 2 bedrooms (i.e. kids share a room). I can't think of anyone in my close circle who has a guest bedroom in DC. The cost of an extra empty bedroom year-round is a lot more than the cost of a few hotel room nights a year.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.


But they wont when they are older. come on.


Sure. Just like you and your husband don't share a bedroom anymore.


Because there’s no difference between a marital relationship and a sibling relationship?
Anonymous
I shared a room with three sisters until the oldest was around 13 and we split two and two. My senior year I had my own room, obviously shared in college and married the summer after college. So I have had my own room for about two years worth of my life.
As a kid we loved sharing. As a teen we did too, mostly. It was never a problem.
I think most people with larger families don’t have a set aside guest room. Maybe have a set up where you can move a kid easily to free up a room with a bigger bed for guests as needed.
Anonymous
We have 3 kids, 3 bedrooms. Hoping to move up to a 4 bedroom someday. If we do, we will probably either continue to have our boys share a room or, if everyone has their own room, at least one kid will get a double bed so we can use that room as a guest room on the rare occasions someone comes to stay while that kid bunks with a sib or on the couch.
Anonymous
I have lots of friends whose kids share a room. Some even even offered splitting them up when there's a chance to switch around things in the house and the kids have said no. I've also heard of people having two kid bedrooms and two kids, but the kids both sleep in the same bedroom and the other room is used as playroom or later a homework (or virtual school) room. Three kids per room I've seen work temporarily, like while all kids have similar bedtime or they know they have to grin and bear it until the family knows they're going to finish the basement or move. Storage space for three kids' clothes in one room ends up being a significant challenge too.
Anonymous
Kids don't NEED their own room. Lots of kids share bedrooms, especially with same-sex siblings. For opposite-sex siblings, I'd say that room-sharing becomes a problem as puberty approaches. Most people with three kids would either have someone double up or they'd give up the guest room.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They should each have their own bedroom. Otherwise don't have that many kids. You can't afford it


That's stupid. You can afford kids even if they have to share a room. Kids don't need their own room, as evidenced by the fact that many kids have shared and share rooms for hundreds of years.
Anonymous
Depends on gender. I would not want my opposite gender kids to share a room past about age 8. Maybe 9. But def not by 10.
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