Is this too large of an age gap? She's 65 he is 39

[Anonymous]

So my relative and her boyfriend have been together almost a decade. She lives off her investment properties and he only works sporadically. No steady job. He says she is very insecure about him wandering off too long. She is insecure but frankly I think she's out of his league. She looks great for her age and passes for 40. Hes been there when she got ill and broke her hip and took care of her during all the recovery. Nobody in the family likes him though and believes he is a golddigger but his sticking by her side makes me think otherwise. I know as a person grows older they get lonely if they have no kids or close family. Is there a way this could be real? If not how to make her see the light?

[Anonymous]

The have been together a decade and he stayed by her side when she was sick and bedridden. It sounds like a real relationship. She could live another twenty years easily, by which time they would have been together 30 years.

[Anonymous]

Why aren't they married?

[Anonymous]

You know nothing about their relationship so myob, OP. If they’re happy, they’re happy.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I have a 34-year age gap. I don't think your relative has that large of an age gap as he's also approaching middle age. If you are judgemental, ask yourselves why you feel that way. You say that she looks younger than her age and I think that helps a lot. He may not want to be with someone who has children or would want them so maybe this age difference works for them. I am childfree by choice and my DH doesn't want any more children so it worked out for us that we have each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have a 34-year age gap. I don't think your relative has that large of an age gap as he's also approaching middle age. If you are judgemental, ask yourselves why you feel that way. You say that she looks younger than her age and I think that helps a lot. He may not want to be with someone who has children or would want them so maybe this age difference works for them. I am childfree by choice and my DH doesn't want any more children so it worked out for us that we have each other.

Holy sh@t.

My parents had us at 23, 25 and 28.

34 YEAR gap ?!

[Anonymous]

Could be they make it work. I have seen longer term May-December couples start to peter out when the older one gets to age 70. They can keep up but as that decade progresses it becomes harder and harder. The younger one is still raring to go and do things but gets stifled. They don’t all break up then, but I have a seen a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be they make it work. I have seen longer term May-December couples start to peter out when the older one gets to age 70. They can keep up but as that decade progresses it becomes harder and harder. The younger one is still raring to go and do things but gets stifled. They don’t all break up then, but I have a seen a few.

It depends on the personalities involved. If you're low-maintenance like I am, then it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my relative and her boyfriend have been together almost a decade. She lives off her investment properties and he only works sporadically. No steady job. He says she is very insecure about him wandering off too long. She is insecure but frankly I think she's out of his league. She looks great for her age and passes for 40. Hes been there when she got ill and broke her hip and took care of her during all the recovery. Nobody in the family likes him though and believes he is a golddigger but his sticking by her side makes me think otherwise. I know as a person grows older they get lonely if they have no kids or close family. Is there a way this could be real? If not how to make her see the light?

LOL. You are saying a 65 year old woman is passing for 40??? Okay, I want to see photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't they married?

NP. Just me, but I would never marry a man without a job. She has her investment properties. HER properties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So my relative and her boyfriend have been together almost a decade. She lives off her investment properties and he only works sporadically. No steady job. He says she is very insecure about him wandering off too long. She is insecure but frankly I think she's out of his league. She looks great for her age and passes for 40. Hes been there when she got ill and broke her hip and took care of her during all the recovery. Nobody in the family likes him though and believes he is a golddigger but his sticking by her side makes me think otherwise. I know as a person grows older they get lonely if they have no kids or close family. Is there a way this could be real? If not how to make her see the light?

LOL. You are saying a 65 year old woman is passing for 40??? Okay, I want to see photos.

I can't even think of any celebrity or model that could pull this off.

[Anonymous]

Yeah way to much. I’m mid 30s woman and would not cinder a guy in his 60s. No way. He is using her for something else.

[Anonymous]

My Dad is 64 and recently he broke off a relationship with a 40 year old who is really beautiful. He said that the cultural and interest divide was so big that he just couldn’t really connect with her. I think his guy friends were very disappointed. I wasn’t because I’m 35 and he never understood my Hanson crush! My husband was really impressed that my “old man” could score such a hot woman.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So my relative and her boyfriend have been together almost a decade. She lives off her investment properties and he only works sporadically. No steady job. He says she is very insecure about him wandering off too long. She is insecure but frankly I think she's out of his league. She looks great for her age and passes for 40. Hes been there when she got ill and broke her hip and took care of her during all the recovery. Nobody in the family likes him though and believes he is a golddigger but his sticking by her side makes me think otherwise. I know as a person grows older they get lonely if they have no kids or close family. Is there a way this could be real? If not how to make her see the light?

LOL. You are saying a 65 year old woman is passing for 40??? Okay, I want to see photos.

Well, when she's not recovering from her broken hip, that is.

[Anonymous]

Well, going the other way, Celine Dion and her late husband had a bigger age gap and from the outside, they looked like they were really happy.