Looking for feedback on my dating profile or better yet help me write it.

[Anonymous]

I hate writing these things and suck at it.

Travel for a living, one month I'm in Paris the jungles of Indonesia.
When I'm home I enjoy spending time with friends/family and my 2 chaotic golden retrievers, volunteering at the hospital's infant cuddle program and animal shelter.
I enjoy reading, hiking, tacos, and singing off-key in karaoke competitions or in my car. I also enjoy corny jokes.-what's your favorite

[Anonymous]

Oooh, you have such a great profile! Your life sounds so wonderfully fulfilling! I would just tweak the wording. Let me know if it's too long, and I'll try again:

I have my dream job traveling for a living. You may find me in Paris one month and then an Indonesian jungle the next. When I am home I enjoy the chaos of my two golden retrievers, volunteering to cuddle infants at the hospital, and spending time with family and friends. I also relish a good book, hike, and corny joke. What's your favorite?

[Anonymous]

Male perspective -

Get rid of the word chaotic before golden retrievers

Leave out the part about cuddle program

Leave out karaoke competitions

I would add sense of humor instead of corny jokes

[Anonymous]

Female perspective- it’s not clear what you want or who you want. Since you lead with traveling all the time, I would assume you want someone either adventurous that could travel with you/go with the flow but maybe you want someone that can relate and has lots of their own career going on and won’t resent you because they are traveling for work or working long hours. With the volunteering cuddling infants and dogs etc,, it seems like you are giving stability, home, nurturing vibes, but the guy that is looking for that or is that may not mesh with your life.

How do you envision life with a plus one, what would it look like 80% of the time? Not that it all needs to be in your profile but that would give clarity to what you want to focus on for the type of person you want to attract. Also, once you have that figured out, you may also want to look at what guys have profiles that match what you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the feedback things were busy the last few days and I wasn't able to respond.


I wouldn't expect that a guy I was in a relationship travel with me, in fact, he might not be able to much of the time. I truly relish my time at home and Actually spend a great deal of time at home, but when I am away. I am easily away for a month at a time, so I need someone who doesn't need me to be there all of the time. A travel partner would be nice. I don't expect him to want to camp out in the jungle, but be willing to explore a bit even if it's just a weekend trip, not a total homebody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Male perspective -

Get rid of the word chaotic before golden retrievers

Leave out the part about cuddle program

Leave out karaoke competitions

I would add sense of humor instead of corny jokes

Why? What do you think of an example of the type of jokes I like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oooh, you have such a great profile! Your life sounds so wonderfully fulfilling! I would just tweak the wording. Let me know if it's too long, and I'll try again:

I have my dream job traveling for a living. You may find me in Paris one month and then an Indonesian jungle the next. When I am home I enjoy the chaos of my two golden retrievers, volunteering to cuddle infants at the hospital, and spending time with family and friends. I also relish a good book, hike, and corny joke. What's your favorite?

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

[Anonymous]

Who takes care of your dogs for a month at a time?

This reads like a collection of adorable/nutty characteristics but I’m having trouble imagining the person they belong to. Maybe lead with something beside the travel, something you like to do/eat/see when you’re here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who takes care of your dogs for a month at a time?

This reads like a collection of adorable/nutty characteristics but I’m having trouble imagining the person they belong to. Maybe lead with something besides the travel, something you like to do/eat/see when you’re here?

Well, I have been described as an adorable nut, but I don't think that's something to lead with on a dating profile lol. I do like the suggestion of including specific travel experiences. As for my dogs, it depends on where I'm going, if I'm stateside they come with me, if not they hang out with my sister, BIL , niece and nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

Thank you for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

PP here, I like this one. My impression of this would be that you are looking for someone that is adventurous and not a homebody, is cool when you travel for an extended amount of time for work, loves dogs, and plus if they volunteer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback things were busy the last few days and I wasn't able to respond.


I wouldn't expect that a guy I was in a relationship travel with me, in fact, he might not be able to much of the time. I truly relish my time at home and Actually spend a great deal of time at home, but when I am away. I am easily away for a month at a time, so I need someone who doesn't need me to be there all of the time. A travel partner would be nice. I don't expect him to want to camp out in the jungle, but be willing to explore a bit even if it's just a weekend trip, not a total homebody.

So what are you looking for in a guy? Are you looking to have a few fun dates when you're in town? Looking to find a husband and have kids? Looking for a husband but don't want kids? How old are you?

If you're looking for a husband to start a family with, then change your profile to leave out your job/extended travel. It's not compatible with having kids, and would likely turn off men who are looking for a wife to start a family with. It might be a deal breaker for a potential husband without kids too because you're gone so often. If you want kids, then what career path do you plan to switch to?

To me, your profile sounds unclear and conflicting. Someone young enough to have children who volunteers in the infant cuddle program sounds very nurturing and like they would want kids. But then traveling for a month at a time isn't a good way to start a family. I would start with what you're looking for, then tailor your profile to include only the elements that align with that. Also, I wouldn't use the term chaotic to describe your dogs. It makes it sound like you don't know how to train them, which is a turn off. I would tone down your profile so it doesn't sound like your life is a chaotic mess.

[Anonymous]

NP. I don’t get “chaotic mess” from her profile. People are multi-faceted, and that’s what makes OP interesting. I think it’s worth including everything though I agree to change the word “chaotic” when referring to her dogs) and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

Thank you for this.

PP here and I like this one.