Looking for feedback on my dating profile or better yet help me write it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I don’t get “chaotic mess” from her profile. People are multi-faceted, and that’s what makes OP interesting. I think it’s worth including everything though I agree to change the word “chaotic” when referring to her dogs) and see how it goes.

Sorry for the run-on sentence!

[Anonymous]

Don't have much profile writing advice, just wanted to say you sound really cool and interesting OP. Hope you find a great match!

[Anonymous]

Also remember a profile is like the preview of a movie: just enough to peak interest, show off some interesting parts, and leave the audience wanting more.

It's not about weeding guys out. She can do that once she looks at their profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also remember a profile is like the preview of a movie: just enough to peak interest, show off some interesting parts, and leave the audience wanting more.

It's not about weeding guys out. She can do that once she looks at their profile.

True, but she needs to convey the right message to attract the right guys or she won't make it that far. That's why it's important to understand what she's looking for.

[Anonymous]

Sorry traveling all of the time doesn’t track with having dogs and volunteering at a hospital.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback things were busy the last few days and I wasn't able to respond.


I wouldn't expect that a guy I was in a relationship travel with me, in fact, he might not be able to much of the time. I truly relish my time at home and Actually spend a great deal of time at home, but when I am away. I am easily away for a month at a time, so I need someone who doesn't need me to be there all of the time. A travel partner would be nice. I don't expect him to want to camp out in the jungle, but be willing to explore a bit even if it's just a weekend trip, not a total homebody.

So what are you looking for in a guy? Are you looking to have a few fun dates when you're in town? Looking to find a husband and have kids? Looking for a husband but don't want kids? How old are you?

If you're looking for a husband to start a family with, then change your profile to leave out your job/extended travel. It's not compatible with having kids, and would likely turn off men who are looking for a wife to start a family with. It might be a deal breaker for a potential husband without kids too because you're gone so often. If you want kids, then what career path do you plan to switch to?

To me, your profile sounds unclear and conflicting. Someone young enough to have children who volunteers in the infant cuddle program sounds very nurturing and like they would want kids. But then traveling for a month at a time isn't a good way to start a family. I would start with what you're looking for, then tailor your profile to include only the elements that align with that. Also, I wouldn't use the term chaotic to describe your dogs. It makes it sound like you don't know how to train them, which is a turn off. I would tone down your profile so it doesn't sound like your life is a chaotic mess.

Good advice. You don't need to include a wish list, but the people looking need to understand they have some qualities you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry traveling all of the time doesn’t track with having dogs and volunteering at a hospital.

Yeah, this is what felt incoherent to me. I started to worry about the dogs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I don’t get “chaotic mess” from her profile. People are multi-faceted, and that’s what makes OP interesting. I think it’s worth including everything though I agree to change the word “chaotic” when referring to her dogs) and see how it goes.

PP who called OP chaotic is clearly jealous she chose a boring career in law instead of pursuing her dreams , but found some happiness in trying to make partner.She got pregnant and DH was useless so she had to quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry traveling all of the time doesn’t track with having dogs and volunteering at a hospital.

Yeah, this is what felt incoherent to me. I started to worry about the dogs.

What's incoherent? Op said that when she is able she brings the dogs with her and when she isn't they stay with family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

This is the best write up. A thread ender so to speak!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

This is the best write up. A thread ender so to speak!

I agree. The original wording that OP and the first PP used just sounds...not genuine? Cant put my finger on it but it just kind of turns me off a little. Ops wording makes you sound like a much more genuine person and someone actually looking to date. Also, you sound like a cool person!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

This is the best write up. A thread ender so to speak!

I agree. The original wording that OP and the first PP used just sounds...not genuine? Cant put my finger on it but it just kind of turns me off a little. Ops wording makes you sound like a much more genuine person and someone actually looking to date. Also, you sound like a cool person!

Sorry I mean pps wording

[Anonymous]

Proud daughter of two (boy and girl) who comes with lots of baggage (that I use for my travels around the globe). Taught my big dogs how to beg. Can do the same for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback things were busy the last few days and I wasn't able to respond.


I wouldn't expect that a guy I was in a relationship travel with me, in fact, he might not be able to much of the time. I truly relish my time at home and Actually spend a great deal of time at home, but when I am away. I am easily away for a month at a time, so I need someone who doesn't need me to be there all of the time. A travel partner would be nice. I don't expect him to want to camp out in the jungle, but be willing to explore a bit even if it's just a weekend trip, not a total homebody.

So what are you looking for in a guy? Are you looking to have a few fun dates when you're in town? Looking to find a husband and have kids? Looking for a husband but don't want kids? How old are you?

If you're looking for a husband to start a family with, then change your profile to leave out your job/extended travel. It's not compatible with having kids, and would likely turn off men who are looking for a wife to start a family with. It might be a deal breaker for a potential husband without kids too because you're gone so often. If you want kids, then what career path do you plan to switch to?

To me, your profile sounds unclear and conflicting. Someone young enough to have children who volunteers in the infant cuddle program sounds very nurturing and like they would want kids. But then traveling for a month at a time isn't a good way to start a family. I would start with what you're looking for, then tailor your profile to include only the elements that align with that. Also, I wouldn't use the term chaotic to describe your dogs. It makes it sound like you don't know how to train them, which is a turn off. I would tone down your profile so it doesn't sound like your life is a chaotic mess.

I'm sorry but this is such BS! Military, truck drivers journalists all have jobs with extended travel do you think those people don't have children? Do you think only men have these jobs? You have some nerve to suggest OP give up her career because men won't like it. Did you time travel from 1950?

It's interesting that you say OP needs to define what she's looking for but at that the same time tell her she must conform to dated standards. A guy who wants a wife that's home every day at 6 is not the guy for op so he should skip over her profile. That's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think PP is spot on about needing to know who you are trying to attract.

You could say something like:
I’m an adventurous traveler but also enjoy my time at home. Work may take me to Paris or the jungles of Indonesia, sometimes for extended trips, but I always look forward to returning home to my two big dogs. I have a soft spot for animals and babies, and volunteer at the shelter and hospital, but my friends know me best for my (somewhat corny!) sense of humor and ability to rock out to some karaoke.

This is the best write up. A thread ender so to speak!

Yeah it's fine but literally says the exact same thing as a million other profiles. There is nothing unique here at all that would make someone pause scrolling. Might as well just have nice pictures and be done with it without revealing that you're as indistinguishable and disposable as the next girl.