Not comfortable having kids fly out to visit dad for Christmas

[Anonymous]

DH and his wife just moved about 8 hours away.

For the past 5 years they lived about 2.5 hours away and my boys spend every other weekend with them and every other holiday break.

My ex doesn’t want to do the drive and wants me to fly the kids (7&11) to the airport about an hour away from them. I’m not comfortable flying them during a pandemic and my younger boy is an anxious flyer so the idea of him going on his first solo flight wearing a mask during a pandemic doesn’t seem like the best idea.

Ex is upset and thinks I’m trying to keep the kids away from him but I’m not the one who moved 8 hours away. I may be more comfortable with the idea when things aren’t so bad numbers wise and I’d probably accompany them on their first flight.

Not against the flight idea as a whole, just not at the moment.

Technically since he moved out of a 4 hour radius of myself I can dictate visitations (if I moved away he’d be able to do the same). I don’t want to say our boys can’t go but I want to firmly say I’m not comfortable with a flight at this time.

[Anonymous]

Can you drive 4 hours and meet 1/2 way?

[Anonymous]

Drive your kids there -- or however close you can -- that the ex is willing to drive to. He is willing to drive an hour to the airport -- will he drive two hours?

[Anonymous]

Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

[Anonymous]

First of all he's not your "DH".

Second, what part of NO TRAVEL do people not get????????

No travel. No plane. No airport. No train. No bus. No taxi. No car, if it involved having to use a public bathroom on the way.

The CDC, Dr. Fauci, various other prominent doctors, have ALL said NO TRAVEL.

You just keep repeating that, OP.

[Anonymous]

So sad that a parent would move 8 hours from young children. Cannot think of one reason why this would be the right decision.

[Anonymous]

What about saying he can have them for Spring Break in April, via a flight.

[Anonymous]

Eat the drive. I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all he's not your "DH".

Second, what part of NO TRAVEL do people not get????????

No travel. No plane. No airport. No train. No bus. No taxi. No car, if it involved having to use a public bathroom on the way.

The CDC, Dr. Fauci, various other prominent doctors, have ALL said NO TRAVEL.

You just keep repeating that, OP.

What does your current court order say? I don't think Dr. Fauci trump's a Judge.

[Anonymous]

You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all he's not your "DH".

Second, what part of NO TRAVEL do people not get????????

No travel. No plane. No airport. No train. No bus. No taxi. No car, if it involved having to use a public bathroom on the way.

The CDC, Dr. Fauci, various other prominent doctors, have ALL said NO TRAVEL.

You just keep repeating that, OP.

Oh please, people are traveling and this is for a parent visit so its a bit different from a vacation. If OP is not staying at home 24/7 with her kids, no seeing other people and at high risk, its one thing but its doubtful.

You don't deny a parent seeing their kid. If you do, then just go ahead and terminate their rights. This Dad gets 4 days a month, 1-2 holidays and no summers. At that point, he's only a child support check.

[Anonymous]

I’d offer the 4 hours, meet in the middle. That’s not a huge drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

She sounds like a shitty mom to only allow Dad 4 days a month and 1-2 holidays a year. Why stay closer with that schedule? You really think 2 weekends a month is a meaningful parenting relationship? At best that's a favorite uncle. This is why Dad's give up and move away. They are denied their kids so why stay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all he's not your "DH".

Second, what part of NO TRAVEL do people not get????????

No travel. No plane. No airport. No train. No bus. No taxi. No car, if it involved having to use a public bathroom on the way.

The CDC, Dr. Fauci, various other prominent doctors, have ALL said NO TRAVEL.

You just keep repeating that, OP.

Oh please, people are traveling and this is for a parent visit so its a bit different from a vacation. If OP is not staying at home 24/7 with her kids, no seeing other people and at high risk, its one thing but its doubtful.

You don't deny a parent seeing their kid. If you do, then just go ahead and terminate their rights. This Dad gets 4 days a month, 1-2 holidays and no summers. At that point, he's only a child support check.

I think she’s just denying a solo flight. He can come get them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

She sounds like a shitty mom to only allow Dad 4 days a month and 1-2 holidays a year. Why stay closer with that schedule? You really think 2 weekends a month is a meaningful parenting relationship? At best that's a favorite uncle. This is why Dad's give up and move away. They are denied their kids so why stay?

Dads can get 50-50 when they want it absent some issue with them.