Not comfortable having kids fly out to visit dad for Christmas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

She’s not denying visits. She’s just saying she does not want her kids to fly during a pandemic. He moved eight hours away. If he wants to see them, he should drive there. Maybe he should drive to their town, rent an Airbnb for a few days, and see the kids masked, and outside.

[Anonymous]

Just fly them there and also back (I have a feeling he will insist on them flying by themselves, so). It’s safe enough. I know you don’t want to go through the trouble and you have a wonderful excuse not to, but let’s face it, it’s just an excuse. Many families are flying on vacations.

[Anonymous]

Oh and I am a divorced mom myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just fly them there and also back (I have a feeling he will insist on them flying by themselves, so). It’s safe enough. I know you don’t want to go through the trouble and you have a wonderful excuse not to, but let’s face it, it’s just an excuse. Many families are flying on vacations.

If families are flying on vacation right now, those families are stupid. The OP is not stupid.

OP, presuming the "if he moves more than four hours away" part of your post is in your custody agreement, say no. If he wants to see the kids, he can drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sad that a parent would move 8 hours from young children. Cannot think of one reason why this would be the right decision.

His wife wanted to move closer to family.

We both have remarried and have had children. I want to keep the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

She sounds like a shitty mom to only allow Dad 4 days a month and 1-2 holidays a year. Why stay closer with that schedule? You really think 2 weekends a month is a meaningful parenting relationship? At best that's a favorite uncle. This is why Dad's give up and move away. They are denied their kids so why stay?

Oh honey, a lot of this was his choice.

We offered every other weekend but due to distance he was ok with twice a month.

He gets them most of the summer.

[Anonymous]

Relationships with parents are important. I would prioritize a kid seeing their parent over almost any other kind of travel, and I think that airports and planes are safer than lots of other places that people are sending their kids.

If he's offering a reasonable way for the kids to get to you, and it's outside your comfort zone, then I think you can either allow it, or you can drive them or buy yourself a ticket to fly there and back with him. If he's willing to pay for half of that, or meet you halfway, that would be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

Actually he broke our court ordered agreement by moving 8 hours away. Because I value my sons relationships with their father I’m willing to make it work. Legally, I can do as I please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d offer the 4 hours, meet in the middle. That’s not a huge drive.

I think that’s what we’ll end up doing.

Not thrilled about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

She sounds like a shitty mom to only allow Dad 4 days a month and 1-2 holidays a year. Why stay closer with that schedule? You really think 2 weekends a month is a meaningful parenting relationship? At best that's a favorite uncle. This is why Dad's give up and move away. They are denied their kids so why stay?

The children in the OP are 7 and 11. For the last 5 years, dad has lived 2.5 hours away from them, which is why he’s seen them so little. If he’s the one who moved several hours away from his 2 and 6 year olds in the first place, he hasn’t been trying to have custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

She’s not denying visits. She’s just saying she does not want her kids to fly during a pandemic. He moved eight hours away. If he wants to see them, he should drive there. Maybe he should drive to their town, rent an Airbnb for a few days, and see the kids masked, and outside.

An Airbnb isn’t safe nor should he have to see his kids outside masked. He is not a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If he wants to see them he can come and pick them up. You shouldn’t risk your kids lives during a pandemic because he moved eight hours away and won’t come pick them up.

He sounds like a shitty dad.

She sounds like a shitty mom to only allow Dad 4 days a month and 1-2 holidays a year. Why stay closer with that schedule? You really think 2 weekends a month is a meaningful parenting relationship? At best that's a favorite uncle. This is why Dad's give up and move away. They are denied their kids so why stay?

The children in the OP are 7 and 11. For the last 5 years, dad has lived 2.5 hours away from them, which is why he’s seen them so little. If he’s the one who moved several hours away from his 2 and 6 year olds in the first place, he hasn’t been trying to have custody.

He is a man and did not get custody and op is taking away the little time he gets. Agreement should give him every holiday and summers. What stay close if you cannot see your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

Actually he broke our court ordered agreement by moving 8 hours away. Because I value my sons relationships with their father I’m willing to make it work. Legally, I can do as I please.

He is usually allowed to move as he has visitation not custody. In your order he cannot move or just you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot deny visits. Offer to meet half way. i would not allow two young kids to fly alone during COVID. Or, if he insists on flying have him fly out and you can meet him with the kids at the airport. Dad gets very little time. If your goal is to stop contact, just be honest about it. It makes no sense to live closer when he only get them 4 days a month/no summers and every other holiday, which is what 1-2 holidays a year at best.

Actually he broke our court ordered agreement by moving 8 hours away. Because I value my sons relationships with their father I’m willing to make it work. Legally, I can do as I please.

He is usually allowed to move as he has visitation not custody. In your order he cannot move or just you?

And, no legally you cannot do as you please.

[jsteele]

The OP is a troll.