Don't want to be called beautiful
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Anonymous
| I have been dating a guy for a month. So far, so good. We have a good time, and find each other attractive. One thing he does that I don't like is call me Beautiful all the time. I know this may sound strange, but I don't like being called Beautiful as a nickname. I'm attractive and get a lot of attention from men, but it's something I'm uncomfortable with. I feel like a lot of men just want me because I'm pretty, and I end up feeling objectified. How do I ask him to stop calling me Beautiful, and not come off like a jerk? |
Anonymous
| Just tell him, and suggest a nickname if you have a particular preference. |
Anonymous
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Suggest something else,
“I appreciate that you think I am beautiful and that you like tell me that, but I would prefer xyz”. Or substitute the second part for “...it really turns me on when you call me xyz”. |
Anonymous
| Just tell him |
Anonymous
| Why are you uncomfortable just telling him? The answer to this is SO obvious and simple that I have to wonder what is going on that you are scared to just tell him. |
Anonymous
| I am one of five sisters. When we were young, there was a guy in our neighborhood who addressed each of us as "beautiful". We were/are beautiful, but I think it's because he didn't know our names. Does the guy know your name? I'm serious. Another thought is that he addresses you that way to guarantee he doesn't call you by his last gf's name.... |
Anonymous
Interesting thought.... |
Anonymous
| "Actually I don't really like being called 'beautiful.' It makes me feel objectified." |
Anonymous
DCUM, month 3 of dating: I told my BF “being called beautiful makes me feel objectified” and asked him to stop. DCUM, year 5/10 of marriage: my husband never tells me I’m beautiful! |
Anonymous
Or the name of the other girl he is seeing. OP, just tell him not to call you that! Communication is key! |
Anonymous
if you can’t tell the difference between an appropriate and welcome compliment and a demeaning nickname, you may want to consider that the problem is you. |
Anonymous
| I get you OP - it’s a bit cheesy and weird. I would be very turned off by that. It’s even a little condescending - like calling someone “little girl” as if you have no other identity than your gender and appearance. It’s also kind of slimy, as if he thinks he’s just god’s gift to women and bestowing you the favor of being considered “beautiful.” Are you sure he’s a good cultural/intelligence/values fit for you? |
Anonymous
| He can't keep his hos' names straight. Calls each one "Beautiful". Keeps hos happy and keeps him busy. |
Anonymous
| It's so hard to be beautiful. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think we used “terms of endearment” until we were married or maybe engaged. One month in.....no way! Frankly, it sounds a bit creepy. Just tell him you would prefer to be called by your name. |