What’s it like for a divorced 41 year old with two kids?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I live in the city, have two young daughters and a good job. My wife and I simply can’t see eye to eye anymore and argue constantly. How has it been for other men on here since they’re divorce? I’m strongly considering getting one. Are the apps worthwhile? I’ve been married 10 years and am genuinely curious about how all this would work. It seems exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

If this is what you're concerned about, you need to slow way way down.

[Anonymous]

Obviously the kids come first, but I would want to start dating within 6 months.

[Anonymous]

You should do individual therapy for a year first. If you want to date right away just be clear it’s casual and you’re still sorting out wtf went wrong with last time. And Wtf are you arguing about? Big red flag for any healthy well adjusted person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should do individual therapy for a year first. If you want to date right away just be clear it’s casual and you’re still sorting out wtf went wrong with last time. And Wtf are you arguing about? Big red flag for any healthy well adjusted person.

What does anyone argue about during a pandemic and they’ve been locked in their houses for months on end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should do individual therapy for a year first. If you want to date right away just be clear it’s casual and you’re still sorting out wtf went wrong with last time. And Wtf are you arguing about? Big red flag for any healthy well adjusted person.

What does anyone argue about during a pandemic and they’ve been locked in their houses for months on end?

Being trapped inside with one another for months on end brings up plenty of things to be annoyed about and to argue about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is what you're concerned about, you need to slow way way down.

You want some strange over fixing your relationship. Think about the kids! Go have an affair...seem as though your on the mental track for one. Loser!

[Anonymous]

COVID it’s cold out there for dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should do individual therapy for a year first. If you want to date right away just be clear it’s casual and you’re still sorting out wtf went wrong with last time. And Wtf are you arguing about? Big red flag for any healthy well adjusted person.

What does anyone argue about during a pandemic and they’ve been locked in their houses for months on end?

Being trapped inside with one another for months on end brings up plenty of things to be annoyed about and to argue about

Ok so get divorced and date OP who is either getting divorced for the same reason or for lack of conflict resolution skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, I live in the city, have two young daughters and a good job. My wife and I simply can’t see eye to eye anymore and argue constantly. How has it been for other men on here since they’re divorce? I’m strongly considering getting one. Are the apps worthwhile? I’ve been married 10 years and am genuinely curious about how all this would work. It seems exhausting.

Therapy. By yourself. Be truthful.

[Anonymous]

this is all bs advice. if you are miserable, then leave. life is short. do what makes you happy. it is not selfish- it is in the best interests of everyone to not live in misery and toxicity. just don’t think the apps are the magic solution to finding happiness. that will come once your new life takes shape.

[Anonymous]

It depends, a lot, on how good-looking you are and how well you manage to refrain from ever complaining about your ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Having young kids is stressful and so is Covid. Stop arguing. It’s just a waste of time and makes everything worse. Make N agreement to shelve the BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is all bs advice. if you are miserable, then leave. life is short. do what makes you happy. it is not selfish- it is in the best interests of everyone to not live in misery and toxicity. just don’t think the apps are the magic solution to finding happiness. that will come once your new life takes shape.

+1. If you’re miserable and hate life so will everyone else around you. It does no one any good. Get the D first and then jump back in the pool.