What’s it like for a divorced 41 year old with two kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, whether you want to divorce or not shouldn't depend on your perceived odds of finding another mate.

[Anonymous]

Expensive. That is what it is like.

Lawyers, alimony, child support, parting with half your assets

Then add in a new house/apt for you and a lot of dates you’ll be footing the bill for.


Hope you are prepared to throw a ton of money down the drain.

Maybe it is worth it. I would at least wait until the pandemic lets up. A lot of people are annoyed with their spouse at this moment.

[Anonymous]

The fact that your kids are young and both girls will hurt your dating chances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that your kids are young and both girls will hurt your dating chances.

Why ?? Doesn’t hurt women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Expensive. That is what it is like.

Lawyers, alimony, child support, parting with half your assets

Then add in a new house/apt for you and a lot of dates you’ll be footing the bill for.


Hope you are prepared to throw a ton of money down the drain.

Maybe it is worth it. I would at least wait until the pandemic lets up. A lot of people are annoyed with their spouse at this moment.

did you really just say alimony? As if that still exists? Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends, a lot, on how good-looking you are and how well you manage to refrain from ever complaining about your ex-wife.

Pretty much. If you are decent looking with a good job and are interesting to he around, you will have zero problems dating. The apps are good for playing the numbers game. If you want to have sex with a different woman every week you can do that or you can find someone to settle with. Apps are a lot of work to sift through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that your kids are young and both girls will hurt your dating chances.

Why ?? Doesn’t hurt women

NP, but I think PP is alluding to the common difficulties in stepmother-stepdaughter relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Expensive. That is what it is like.

Lawyers, alimony, child support, parting with half your assets

Then add in a new house/apt for you and a lot of dates you’ll be footing the bill for.


Hope you are prepared to throw a ton of money down the drain.

Maybe it is worth it. I would at least wait until the pandemic lets up. A lot of people are annoyed with their spouse at this moment.

did you really just say alimony? As if that still exists? Ha!

You better believe she will ask for it. And you will pay your lawyer $$$$ to get it denied. Either way, divorce is expensive and unless you have a lot saved away, you will take a huge financial hit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that your kids are young and both girls will hurt your dating chances.

Why ?? Doesn’t hurt women

NP, but I think PP is alluding to the common difficulties in stepmother-stepdaughter relationships.

Yep. I’m a total girls girl and love my nieces and have lots of female friends but if dating a divorced dad I limit to men with sons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, whether you want to divorce or not shouldn't depend on your perceived odds of finding another mate.

This. If you end up struggling to meet women, don’t have sex for over a year and never end up finding another relationship, will you still be glad you divorced your wife? If not, find a way to fix your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, whether you want to divorce or not shouldn't depend on your perceived odds of finding another mate.

This. If you end up struggling to meet women, don’t have sex for over a year and never end up finding another relationship, will you still be glad you divorced your wife? If not, find a way to fix your marriage.

Exactly this. I divorced because I would rather be single forever than stay married to my ex husband. It was not a good marriage. It was never about meeting someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Expensive. That is what it is like.

Lawyers, alimony, child support, parting with half your assets

Then add in a new house/apt for you and a lot of dates you’ll be footing the bill for.


Hope you are prepared to throw a ton of money down the drain.

Maybe it is worth it. I would at least wait until the pandemic lets up. A lot of people are annoyed with their spouse at this moment.

did you really just say alimony? As if that still exists? Ha!

If the other spouse doesn't work and hasn't for years, that spouse will receive some sort of support, albeit not indefinitely.

[Anonymous]

OP - how good looking and fun are you and how good is your "good" job? If you are considering divorcing just to have more people to f#ck and you are not picky, you will have options on dating apps.

My male friends in their 40s who divorced and have kids have had mixed experiences- one worked on the Hill and is hot and has 20 year olds happy to be FWB and go on fabulous getaways but another GS 12 IT nerd guy can't get a date.

[Anonymous]

I have 50% custody of three children and dating to have a real relationship is not in the cards. But there are plenty of divorced women out there who are in the same boat but who are interested in adult companionship and that includes sex. I was very honest in my profile and I was pleasantly surprised by the number of women who said that’s what I’m looking for too. I have no desire to create a Brady Bunch scenario and many women don’t either.

[Anonymous]

41, succesful, instant family...you'll have the pick of the litter of 32-40yo single women. Might be tough to do the usual 24-30 crowd though.