If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?

[Anonymous]

I think cheaters spend a lot of time on date apps or searching for other women/men to date/sleep with that they don't pay attention to their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend to care if they cheated?

[Anonymous]

I would care less than the average person since I understand you can cheat and still live your spouse

[Anonymous]

What’s with all the cheating threads? Is this one person who recently got cheated on or something? Just seems like a lot recently.

[Anonymous]

It's a relationship discussion board. The top two issues in marriage are money and sex/infidelity. It's just super common

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would care less than the average person since I understand you can cheat and still live your spouse

This sort of. I understand why people cheat and how it can be anything from childhood trauma to desperate loneliness. I wouldn’t go scorched earth but would hope my partner would get therapy and we could figure out together what is going on and if it is fixable.

[Anonymous]

Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

If you don't care then why the lack of honesty?

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated. My ex had a really long affair. Once I found out, I consulted an attorney and immediately kicked him out, and filed for divorce. We had been living separately for 8 months when I started casually dating a guy. Ex found out, and went absolutely insane with jealousy.

So it was cool for him to cheat for years, but not for me to date while we were separated and well on our way to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never cheated. My ex had a really long affair. Once I found out, I consulted an attorney and immediately kicked him out, and filed for divorce. We had been living separately for 8 months when I started casually dating a guy. Ex found out, and went absolutely insane with jealousy.

So it was cool for him to cheat for years, but not for me to date while we were separated and well on our way to divorce.

That’s usually how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

This is hypothetical. You all might be surprised to find you feel very differently if your spouse actually did cheat. Also, if someone is so lonely in a marriage, why not divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.

Really ? Millennial are all in on open relationships etc ?

[Anonymous]

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

You need to do a lot of work on yourself and find new friends. What kind of emotionally stunted, immature adult cheats on their spouse then sits around and talks about it with their friends? Yuck on so many levels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.

I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different

This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.

Really ? Millennial are all in on open relationships etc ?

Percentage wise they are more tolerant of it and younger therapists are also less supportive of traditional marriages.