How do I respond to a super spreader party invite?

[Anonymous]

My family member is throwing a party, in her home, with food and drinks, for nearly 50-60 invited guests. Masks and social distancing optional. What would you do? I’m not sure what they are thinking and makes me think they are irresponsible and foolish.

I feel like saying something. Is it not my place? Just simply reply with regrets? Have people lost their minds?

[Anonymous]

Reply with regrets and be sure to steer clear of people who may have been there. If you're taking appropriate precautions, it shouldn't affect you so MYOB. Obviously it sucks for everyone when people do this but there's no upside to meddling. It won't keep them from having the party.

[Anonymous]

Either reply you can’t go or say you can the the Wednesday before say you were in close contact with a positive person snd you can’t make it due to quarantine requirements.

[Anonymous]

Just say you can’t go. Don’t get judgy or preachy. No good will come from it and it might even be counterproductive. Just say no and that’s it.

[Anonymous]

If it’s illegal, call their county department of health so they can stop the party.

If it’s not illegal, then reply all and warn them that they are playing with people’s lives - their own or someone else’s. It makes them murderers.

[Anonymous]

“Sorry, per CDC Covid pandemic recommendations, I will not be able to attend.”

You can only control you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reply with regrets and be sure to steer clear of people who may have been there. If you're taking appropriate precautions, it shouldn't affect you so MYOB. Obviously it sucks for everyone when people do this but there's no upside to meddling. It won't keep them from having the party.

+1

If enough people just send regrets, they'll get the message. But if they haven't already internalized the idea that a huge party is a bad idea, nothing you say is going to make the light bulb go off.

[Anonymous]

What kind of party is it, OP? A baby shower? A birthday? An engagement?
Not that it matters, just wondering. And you respond by saying you have previous engagements or ten and, unfortunately, can't attend.

[Anonymous]

I mean just say you can't attend what's the big deal? If you want to go, go. I feel like some people on this board love to start threads like these to try and prove how great they are by staying home because they have extremely anxiety of an illness with proven 99.9+% recovery. Just stay home and do you and the others will continue on with their lives.

[Anonymous]

Just say, thank you for the invite. We hope you have a wonderful party and look forward to seeing you when COVID lessons.

[Anonymous]

As Nancy Reagan would say "Just say no."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reply with regrets and be sure to steer clear of people who may have been there. If you're taking appropriate precautions, it shouldn't affect you so MYOB. Obviously it sucks for everyone when people do this but there's no upside to meddling. It won't keep them from having the party.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If it’s illegal, call their county department of health so they can stop the party.

If it’s not illegal, then reply all and warn them that they are playing with people’s lives - their own or someone else’s. It makes them murderers.

I'm pretty sure that murdering someone is against the law. And I'm pretty sure that going to a party is not the equivalent of murdering someone.

Have a nice day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If it’s illegal, call their county department of health so they can stop the party.

If it’s not illegal, then reply all and warn them that they are playing with people’s lives - their own or someone else’s. It makes them murderers.

Oh my god. OP, do not do this. The host is a clueless moron, but at this point, everyone knows what the risks are. You can’t fix stupid. Rage-sending a hyperbole-filled email will accomplish nothing.

[Anonymous]

In PA this party would be breaking the law and law enforcement can stop the party or issue citations. You’re required to wear a mask, even if you are in your own home, when you are indoors with a member(s) of another household. And there is a gathering limit.

Maryland only has a strong recommendation to not have gatherings larger than 25, with masking also recommended.