Both of my children gay or bi

[Anonymous]

Hi. My 20 yo ds is bi and has been in a same sex relationship for 2 years. Just discovered my 16 yo daughter is in a relationship with her best friend. I have to say, I’m a little surprised about both kids being in same sex relationships. Is this unusual? I’m supportive of both kids, though my dd is not out with this relationship. Based on general discussion with dd BFF, her parents may not be supportive of BFF being lgbtq plus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...her parents may not be supportive of BFF being lgbtq plus.

Why is this expression used? A person can not be “LGBTQ+.” Physically and literally impossible.

[Anonymous]

Would you have been surprised if both of your kids were straight?

I don't understand the point of this post.

[Anonymous]

It can run in families. I know several extended families with multiple gay members.

[Anonymous]

Not unusual at all. I know a set of 3 siblings that are all LGBTQ

[Anonymous]

People are going to jump all over me for this comment but in my personal observation, teens deciding they are bi or gay has become very much a fad. It’s the modern day version of rebelling in a safe way. Many of my teens friends have decided they are bi. Many became straight after some time in college.

[Anonymous]

Agree it's a fad.
Each sibling has a statistically equal chance of being gay. It's not like the odds change with the more kids you have.
Both my kids are not straight.
I know a guy who has two gay brothers.
I think it's a complicated mix of nature, nurture, and fad.
And it's all good

[Anonymous]

My friend's family of 3 sisters - all them have at least one gay kid; with one sister, both sons are gay - they are all gen X.
I have wondered if it runs in families.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I and gay. We both have 1 gay sibling. But we also both come from large families and most of our siblings are straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are going to jump all over me for this comment but in my personal observation, teens deciding they are bi or gay has become very much a fad. It’s the modern day version of rebelling in a safe way. Many of my teens friends have decided they are bi. Many became straight after some time in college.

+1

[Anonymous]

My wife is gay and so is her sister. We are all in our 40s now and happily married. Might be a fad, who knows. It certainly can happen though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are going to jump all over me for this comment but in my personal observation, teens deciding they are bi or gay has become very much a fad. It’s the modern day version of rebelling in a safe way. Many of my teens friends have decided they are bi. Many became straight after some time in college.

+1

I cannot imagine having sex with women for years because of a fad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are going to jump all over me for this comment but in my personal observation, teens deciding they are bi or gay has become very much a fad. It’s the modern day version of rebelling in a safe way. Many of my teens friends have decided they are bi. Many became straight after some time in college.

+1

I cannot imagine having sex with women for years because of a fad.

It’s not a thing. The above PPs are homophobic.

[Anonymous]

I know several families who have more than one gay child. My sister's wife has 2 gay siblings (out of 4 siblings total), meaning 3 of the 5 kids are gay. These are people in their late 30s who have faced serious hardships because of their sexuality; it is not a fad. It is possible that having a sibling come out could make another sibling feel safe to come out, but that does not mean the sibling isn't actually gay.

Being gay is not a choice, and so makes sense that it would run in families like many other traits do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:...her parents may not be supportive of BFF being lgbtq plus.

Why is this expression used? A person can not be “LGBTQ+.” Physically and literally impossible.

You are incorrect.

The way OP used it is not the typical common usage. The more common usage is to refer to a group of individuals or stakeholders that fit within the broad umbrella of LGBTQ+. As in, "the LGBTQ+ community."

But, it is possible for an individual to fit more than one of the categories covered. Someone can be both gay and trans, for example. Queer is an umbrella term. The "plus" covers a host of identities including intersex, bigender, and gender non-conforming: some of those have to do with biology, some with presentation, and some with orientation, so there can be overlap. As OP does not know the whole story with BFF, referring to her as LGBTQ+ makes logical sense.

And in any event, you knew what she meant. Why do you need to police this term?