I repeated something I shouldn't have

[Anonymous]

I HATE how impulsive I am. I have PTSD and ADHD, and I work so hard at improving my social skills, being a good friend, and responding appropriately to people. I have come so far after years of therapy, but I still goof up. A friend told me something today that was somewhat personal, and I texted an old co-worker about it, because it was something we have discussed before. The co-worker didn't respond, and I wish I hadn't said anything. Why do I do this!? I really hate my brain sometimes

[Anonymous]

Ask the former coworker not to mention it to anyone but admit your wrongdoing and apologize if it gets back to your friend.

BTW, your issues aren’t with ADHD or impulse control. You didn’t blurt it out - you had time to stop yourself before writing it. Look deeper at your issues, OP.

[Anonymous]

That does sound impulsive, even considering you wrote a text.

Are you medicated for your ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That does sound impulsive, even considering you wrote a text.

Are you medicated for your ADHD?

Yes, I do have ADHD. I sent an apology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That does sound impulsive, even considering you wrote a text.

Are you medicated for your ADHD?

Yes, I do have ADHD. I sent an apology.

I am working on finding the right medication for my ADHD, but I haven’t found one to be super helpful yet.

[Anonymous]

1. Tell your friend what you did. It will be worse if they find out from someone else about this (assuming you're all in the same circle).

2. Apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the former coworker not to mention it to anyone but admit your wrongdoing and apologize if it gets back to your friend.

BTW, your issues aren’t with ADHD or impulse control. You didn’t blurt it out - you had time to stop yourself before writing it. Look deeper at your issues, OP.

That was lack of impulse control. OP wanted to impress his/her former coworker with some tidbit and fired off the text message. Oops. Lack of empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask the former coworker not to mention it to anyone but admit your wrongdoing and apologize if it gets back to your friend.

BTW, your issues aren’t with ADHD or impulse control. You didn’t blurt it out - you had time to stop yourself before writing it. Look deeper at your issues, OP.

That was lack of impulse control. OP wanted to impress his/her former coworker with some tidbit and fired off the text message. Oops. Lack of empathy.

I don’t think she likes empathy or she wouldn’t even be reflecting on her mistake, she would be defending her reason for needing to tell her coworker this information. I don’t know how old you are, but this mostly just seems immature. Hopefully you can’t continue to grow OP.

[Anonymous]

It likely won't get back to your friend. We all make mistakes and have things to work on. Just move on and do better next time.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, medication doesn't help much with impulsivity. I gently suggest, if you aren't already, practice mindfulness. It's helped my DH (with ADHD) a lot but, like with many things, he gets bored with the routine of doing it and has to fall off the wagon sometimes before going back to it.

As a PP noted, I would reach out to the person you texted, acknowledge you shouldn't have shared that and ask them to keep it in confidence. Then, commit to doing better and let it go. Forgive yourself. Stop ruminating on it. Move on. Mindfulness can help with that. Good luck! You're on the right path.

[Anonymous]

As a person with ADD, I recommend ALWAYS pausing before you hit send. If you have little inkling that it is not yours to share or perhaps not helpful or productive, let it rest a day. Then re-assess.

You notified it this time keep working and you’ll improve too point of catching the text/comment BEFORE you send/ say it.

Good luck.