Schools as babysitters - please take a moment to think about who you are bashing.

[Anonymous]

To all those complaining that parents only see schools as babysitters and who want schools open so that they don't have to pay for childcare - why aren't you thinking about the large number of families who cannot pay for childcare?? Most of the upper middle class can figure this out and pay for alternatives. Those that are more financially challenged can also figure this out, but can't afford this option or for other reasons it may not be as easily solved.

So when you start hating on all parents for wanting schools back in, for any reason, please note that you are hating on some very vulnerable people in our society. The ones that can't afford tutors, who can't be one of the 2 million women who have dropped out of the workforce, the ones that technology does not come as easy to, etc.

I see this on so many posts and I can't imagine the liberally focused majority on this board can't open their minds to this....

[Anonymous]

Op, I don't agree, but those people will just say: "They shouldn't have had kids if the couldn't afford childcare." Only upper middle class people are entitled to reproduce I suppose.

[Anonymous]

I find the overall argument ridiculous. Teachers aren't just in charge of lecturing. Schools are there to engage and teach students skills beyond just reading and writing, but how to be a student, focus on tasks, take responsibility, etc. They're clearly not able to do that virtually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't agree, but those people will just say: "They shouldn't have had kids if the couldn't afford childcare." Only upper middle class people are entitled to reproduce I suppose.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think that it's really a few trolls that consistently write those kinds of comments.

[Anonymous]

Nearly all of my students in an all lower income school have a parent or relative at home with them. A few of them who don’t go to neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Have we really gone from the dumb argument that "schools aren't childcare" to the even dumber one of "if you couldn't have predicted a pandemic, then you shouldn't have had kids"?

[Anonymous]

Just give it a rest, OP. We're in a pandemic. We're not making decisions based on who can afford childcare. Yes, it hurts for people who can't afford it -- it hurts in general when people don't have enough money. This is nothing new.

It's a pandemic. If you're only being squeezed by lack of money to get what you want now, then count yourself as lucky.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I was raised by parents who taught me not to judge those who have made less than perfect choices, but instead, to step in and offer help. A little gratitude and less smug judgment would go a long way during these times.

[Anonymous]

Not being smug. Just common sense. God gave that to us too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nearly all of my students in an all lower income school have a parent or relative at home with them. A few of them who don’t go to neighbors.

I teach low income ESOL kids. Their families take Covid VERY seriously. They’ve all known families with it and families who have had very bad cases and outcomes. The kids are being kept at home with some family member.

[Anonymous]

Well this is going well.

OP, I agree. It is bizarre how many people are reacting to struggling families by saying "Your problem not mine, you shouldn't have had kids then."

As someone facing a huge childcare deficit because of closed schools, here's how I'm handling it:

- Oh, you need me to do some admin stuff for the school so that you can report attendance numbers or brag about how well DL is going at our school? Sorry, I don't have time for that because I'm parenting and educating my own kid. Guess you'll have to figure that out on your own.

- Oh, you want my young child to wear a mask perfectly while walking down the street so you can feel safe? Sorry, but I'm focused on parenting and educating my child and I don't have the energy to take care of your medical and emotional needs. Guess you'll just have to figure that out on your own.

See, it's not so fun when society just decides they don't give a flying f**k about what you need to function in the world, is it? Tough shit, maybe you shouldn't have gone into education. Maybe you shouldn't be a person with a body that can get sick. I mean, why do you even bother living at all if you need me to do all this work just to make things easier for you? Haven't you heard of pErSoNaL rEsPoNsIbIlItY??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well this is going well.

OP, I agree. It is bizarre how many people are reacting to struggling families by saying "Your problem not mine, you shouldn't have had kids then."

As someone facing a huge childcare deficit because of closed schools, here's how I'm handling it:

- Oh, you need me to do some admin stuff for the school so that you can report attendance numbers or brag about how well DL is going at our school? Sorry, I don't have time for that because I'm parenting and educating my own kid. Guess you'll have to figure that out on your own.

- Oh, you want my young child to wear a mask perfectly while walking down the street so you can feel safe? Sorry, but I'm focused on parenting and educating my child and I don't have the energy to take care of your medical and emotional needs. Guess you'll just have to figure that out on your own.

See, it's not so fun when society just decides they don't give a flying f**k about what you need to function in the world, is it? Tough shit, maybe you shouldn't have gone into education. Maybe you shouldn't be a person with a body that can get sick. I mean, why do you even bother living at all if you need me to do all this work just to make things easier for you? Haven't you heard of pErSoNaL rEsPoNsIbIlItY??

Jeez you sound mentally ill. Seriously, you're trying to burn people by letting your kid not wear a mask properly, because you're pissed they have to do DL? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well this is going well.

OP, I agree. It is bizarre how many people are reacting to struggling families by saying "Your problem not mine, you shouldn't have had kids then."

As someone facing a huge childcare deficit because of closed schools, here's how I'm handling it:

- Oh, you need me to do some admin stuff for the school so that you can report attendance numbers or brag about how well DL is going at our school? Sorry, I don't have time for that because I'm parenting and educating my own kid. Guess you'll have to figure that out on your own.

- Oh, you want my young child to wear a mask perfectly while walking down the street so you can feel safe? Sorry, but I'm focused on parenting and educating my child and I don't have the energy to take care of your medical and emotional needs. Guess you'll just have to figure that out on your own.

See, it's not so fun when society just decides they don't give a flying f**k about what you need to function in the world, is it? Tough shit, maybe you shouldn't have gone into education. Maybe you shouldn't be a person with a body that can get sick. I mean, why do you even bother living at all if you need me to do all this work just to make things easier for you? Haven't you heard of pErSoNaL rEsPoNsIbIlItY??

Jeez you sound mentally ill. Seriously, you're trying to burn people by letting your kid not wear a mask properly, because you're pissed they have to do DL? Wow.

Why would I bother myself to fix my kids mask in a situation with a next to nil chance of infecting someone (outside, while socially distanced), if people are just sitting around shrugging about the fact that my kid doesn't get to go to school? Like why would I waste my very limited energy on making someone feel less anxious about Covid? Who cares? I've been wearing masks and isolating for 8 months, I taught my 3 year old how to wash her hands like a damn surgeon, I donated money to mutual aid societies, I didn't see my parents, I didn't go on vacation, I did everything in my power to help my neighbors in the pandemic.

And now that I'm drowning and asking for help with my child, I'm being told that it's my problem and I shouldn't have had kids?

I'm not mentally ill. I'm done. You don't care about my family? Well I don't care about yours. Suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all those complaining that parents only see schools as babysitters and who want schools open so that they don't have to pay for childcare - why aren't you thinking about the large number of families who cannot pay for childcare?? Most of the upper middle class can figure this out and pay for alternatives. Those that are more financially challenged can also figure this out, but can't afford this option or for other reasons it may not be as easily solved.

So when you start hating on all parents for wanting schools back in, for any reason, please note that you are hating on some very vulnerable people in our society. The ones that can't afford tutors, who can't be one of the 2 million women who have dropped out of the workforce, the ones that technology does not come as easy to, etc.

I see this on so many posts and I can't imagine the liberally focused majority on this board can't open their minds to this....

If they can’t afford kids, shouldn’t have had them. It’s a choice to be a parent. They were irresponsible. Teachers did not force them to reproduce even though it didn’t fit their lifestyle.