DH sinuses/spitting
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Anonymous
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I need some ideas or advice. Not sure if I’m not being understanding enough ...
Kind of gross ... heads up ... DH has horrible sinus issues. Was told by an ENT they’re among the worst impacted ones he’s seen. He doesn’t want to get surgery so just lives with it. The result is most mornings, especially as it’s getting cooler, when he wakes up and starts moving, all the crap that accumulated on his sinuses overnight starts to drip out. It is in his throat and so he needs to spit it out. So far all good. I get it, feel for him, understand. At some points this will mean he has to spit several times in a 5-10 minute period. Still all good. We recently moved to a house without a garbage disposal in the sink. DH also has a habit of peeling fruit and leaving the peel in the sink, dumping cereal, etc. so that the mesh sink filter gets clogged with food. Annoying, kinda gross, but again, I can deal. The sink closest to the main part of the house where we are for most of the morning is in the kitchen. The bathroom is about twice as far. Not miles, but also not right nearby the breakfast table. When DH has to clear his sinuses during breakfast (and sometimes at other points in the day), he spits in the kitchen sink. **Occasionally** he lifts up the mesh sink filter and spits directly down the drain. Other times he spits and washes it into the filter (be it filled with food or not) or leaves the clump of spit on the base of the sink basin (this is usually if there are some dirty dishes in there so he can’t easily wash it down). So ... I’ve asked him to please spit directly down the sink or use the bathroom, but he still doesn’t 100% of the time. Am I being unreasonable? Does anyone have any creative solutions? A spittoon? Suck it up buttercup? |
Anonymous
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I have this same problem. I spit in the bathroom sink, nowhere else. Yes, it does take an extra 10-15 seconds to walk there from the kitchen. Fortunately I am not a lazy slob. And I make sure to run the water so that everything is clear of the sink.
I did not have to be asked by my wife to do any of this because it is common sense. |
Anonymous
This is OP and I am cracking up, thank you! I wouldn’t call DH a lot slob because he busts his ass in other ways, but it is helpful to get this reality check 🤣🤣 |
Anonymous
| Spitting snot into the kitchen sink is beyond nasty. Make him go to the bathroom! |
Anonymous
My DH is the same way, and he washes it down the drain in whatever sink he uses. He has other gross habits, but thankfully he’s considerate about that one! |
Anonymous
Lol, no problem! |
Anonymous
| Spitting is so so so sosososoo gross. Encourage that surgery. |
Anonymous
100% agree. If he chooses to spit instead of having surgery, he should go into the bathroom, spit into a tissue and flush it or throw it out. He is disgusting and it's totally fair for you to tell him that every single time he spits into the SINK that everyone uses. |
Anonymous
| Thank you everyone. Thought I might get mixed responses ... I clearly have been being too understanding 🤣 |
Anonymous
He gets to choose what happens to his body. If he doesn't want the surgery then she has no right to ask him to do it. |
Anonymous
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I don’t even like nose blowing in the kitchen. This sounds revolting.
He needs to change his diet and/or take drugs to deal with this if he won’t do the surgery. |
Anonymous
| My father has similar sinus issues and it drove my mother insane. My mother fined my father $5 each time he spit directly into the kitchen sink instead of the bathroom. It worked. |
Anonymous
Yep. This is revolting and should not be normalized. |
Anonymous
| I use a sinus saline rinse every morning as soon as I wake up. In the bathroom btw. I also take a decongestant. I am sure at this point I am under watch by the fbi as a meth head I buy so much of it |
Anonymous
| I had that issue and swallowed. I read that stomach acid killed it |