Should I Tell My Boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I was 19 and stupid. I met a guy on a greyhound bus coming home from the military ( him). He was super interested in me but I was headed back to school( home on break). I gave him my address and he wrote me but I blew him off. I stupidly gave his address to another girl in my dorm who thought he was cute. They talked but nothing came of it. The guy was nice but older and lived in another state. He wrote me about me coming to his state and all this stuff that I felt was too weird and too much given we had only met once.

I met a guy recently who is from the same state. We have been dating for a little while and I met some of his fiends. That guy happens to be one of his friends brother. He was there and eventually realized who I was. I vaguely remembered him ( I’m 32) and he didn’t seem happy that I blew him off. I don’t know if I should let it go or mention it to my boyfriend? I’m not proud of the way I handled the situation, but it’s been so long, and it was nothing. We had a good maybe 2-3 hour talk and then that was it.

[Anonymous]

I'd let him know.

[Anonymous]

^^Agree 💯 percent^^

Because if your boyfriend finds out later that you kept this from him, he may break up w/you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Agree 💯 percent^^

Because if your boyfriend finds out later that you kept this from him, he may break up w/you.

Would you really want to date someone who would break up with you over something that happened over a decade ago? And that something isn't even a big deal. I also find it incredibly strange that this guy appears to still be holding a grudge.

[Anonymous]

What is there to tell him? You talked to a guy on a bus and nothing ever came of it... What would you be telling him? You did nothing wrong. If "Bob" says that you blew him off, then your choosiness speaks well of you. Your new beau would be happy, not upset, that you didn't go for Bob. But I wouldn't go out of your way to explain why or disparage Bob. You are just particular about who you date, and that's good. It speaks well of you.

[Anonymous]

What are you telling? You met a guy 20 years ago and exchanged a couple of letters?

[Anonymous]

Hey john it’s the weirdest thing, 15 years ago, I was on a bus and talked to this guy....

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the guy even remembers you?

I don't know if you should tell, it's not like you guys actually date, but if you act like you don't know him and he mentions knowing you to your bf it automatically makes it seem more serious than it is.

[Anonymous]

What happened on the bus!? I would just say something like-"I realized I actually know your friend x from back in the day, it's such a random story..."

[Anonymous]

Tell him...but it is not a big deal. And you are making it much more important than it is.

[Anonymous]

The dude sounds seriously bonkers if he's still hung up on being ghosted 10+ years ago. I'd tell the bf just because it's so weird that the other guy remembers/cares. What a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

It's weirder that the bus guy still cares. I'd tell my boyfriend but mostly just because I think its more likely bus guys murders you behind an IHOP than your boyfriend breaks up with you over having spoken to some rando at 19.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him, because if the other guy is still upset this long after, who knows what he might say about you....

[Anonymous]

I would bring it up but this shouldn't be a big deal.

Just a, "What a coincidence! I met your friend Joe's brother on a bus when I was 19. He was on leave from the Army and we exchanged a couple letters."

If you want..

But really, how often will you be running into your boyfriend's friend's brother?

[Anonymous]

Thinking about this, I am pretty sure once I saw dude and he was acting weird I would have gossiped about it with my boyfriend then or soon after (like on the ride home) but we are like that together perhaps you and your beau aren't that way.