Depressed and Scared
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Anonymous
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So I was pretty "desirable" in my youth. I was a virgin, cute, dressed well and came from a loving family. I met who I thought was the love of my life at 25. We married at 27. Fast forward to 5 years and our marriage is a hot mess. He completely changed! He is lazy, emotionally and verbally abusive, has anger issues and is broke. He also has been serially cheating on me. I cannot reason with him and I am sick of being the only adult in the room. Now my most fertile years and beauty is behind me and I feel almost stupid to exit without having at least one child.
I feel so stupid and betrayed. I feel like he lured me in with his fake persona and promises and now I am being hung out to dry. |
Anonymous
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Never settle for a man who chooses you because you’re young, beautiful, “fertile”, and a Virgin.
A lot of men are dogs. Not all are. Work on your self-esteem, and you’ll find a man who wants YOU, not your body. |
Anonymous
| you don't want a child with this man, trust me. |
Anonymous
| Don't waste anymore of your youth with this man!! Get out now. The sooner you get out there, the sooner you can meet a good guy to settle down with. You are still young, you have many years to meet someone, just work on yourself, you will be fine. |
Anonymous
| I married at 33 and have 2 kids. Leave now or you'll will regret it. |
Anonymous
+1 You'd be tied to him for the rest of your life. Get out now, clean break, you still have time to start over. |
Anonymous
| End it now. |
Anonymous
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You are experiencing cognitive distortion. You are still very young! You have many years to seek a healthy relationship and have kids, if that is what you want. This guy is a dead end - don’t waste a moment more!
I just turned 50 - 32 is a baby! |
Anonymous
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He has damaged your self esteem. Your best years are not behind you. (Hopefully, your worst will be soon!)
If you have a child with this man, he will be in your life forever, and have the opportunity to abuse your child as he has abused you. Why would you choose him to provide half your child's genes and their male role model? Leave now. Call a woman's shelter or family member or counsellor if you need to, but do it. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Omg run!! Do. It have child with this man. Get your finances in order and start interviewing attorneys. If no kids and not many assets, do you think he would agree to an amicable divorce. If no kids and few assets you may be able to skip the attorney but you should still consult one at the outset. |
Anonymous
| In your youth? You are only 30! |
Anonymous
| ^ 32, sorry. |
Anonymous
| Get out ASAP. Once you have a kid with someone they’re in your life forever. Not 18 years. Forever. |
Anonymous
| Do you think you'll be better off if the divorce happens 10 years from now and you have a few kids? |
Anonymous
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Did you write the post below yours, about 30s and being undesirable?
Your life and fertility didn't end in your 20s. |