Did you and your spouse talk about your families' genetic history
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Anonymous
| Before getting married? |
Anonymous
| By genetic history, I mean medical history. For example, if one of your parents had a genetic disorder |
Anonymous
| We did, mostly because I asked and was curious. |
Anonymous
| No, but dh is Jewish and I may have had Jewish ancestors, so before we underwent IVF, he was tested to see if he was a carrier for Tay Sachs or Cystic Fibrosis, at the recommendation of the fertility clinic. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
| My husband was born with a disability. It didn’t deter me from getting engaged but my soon to be MIL said it wasn’t genetic based on the science at the time. We never talked about any other genetic history. Our children were all born very healthy. |
Anonymous
| yes |
Anonymous
Op, this conversations came out naturally like his mother’s hip replacement or my sibling’s dyslexia. No one has perfect genes. Even if someone thought they were sharing everything they know with you, there are no guarantees. |
Anonymous
| Not before marriage but before kids. We decided that adoption was a better option than procreation and the. We adopted a special needs child. Not that we decided to go that route. Just serendipity. |
Anonymous
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No, but we should have
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Anonymous
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No, when we got married, there wasn't an indication that there was an issue. Now, 20 years later, there is a direct cancer link that has recently been found in two generations. All family members from one generation died from a certain cancer and his maternal generation, all have had various types of cancers related to this gene.
That being said, I wouldn't have considered not marrying him if I knew this. We have info and hopefully he will get scanned and take it seriously. |
Anonymous
| Yes. We also did a genetic testing on both of our kids in first trimester.....and then this year my dad and two of his siblings were diagnosed with Parkinson's. I would steer clear of marrying someone with severe multi-generational mental health issues, everything else is a complete crapshoot. |
Anonymous
| In the normal course of getting to know each other, we had conversations about medical/family history. There are genetic components associated with that history. So, yes, we did discuss genetic history in a roundabout way. It had no bearing on our decision to get married and have kids. FWIW, there's a lot of ADHD, depression, anxiety, learning disabilities, substance abuse and diabetes in the family. |
Anonymous
| Yes. A lot. And we actually decided to adopt as a result of some genetic history. But then having bio kids was a lot easier and we went with that. |
Anonymous
| Yes, thoroughly. |