Did you and your spouse talk about your families' genetic history
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Anonymous
| Wish we had talked about mental disorders in the family. But he would have lied, just like his mother does on it. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I am a carrier of a known genetic disease. |
Anonymous
| No...but honestly talking about this is not as foolproof as people think it is. |
Anonymous
| PP. but many people get carrier testing prior to conception. If he thinks a convo is enough he’s a dummy. If this is coming up because he can’t accept whatever the condition is then that’s a different issue. |
Anonymous
| I didn't know about DH's father's dyslexia. |
Anonymous
| I didn’t think it needs to be a topic unless there is something known like my father has hemophilia or my brother died of cystic fibrosis in his teens. |
Anonymous
On the first real date —long story, but we are both mixed ancestry AA. Sickle cell disease/trait status and thalassemia disease/trait status are a critical conversation for dating couples who have African, Arab, and Southern Italian ancestry. |
Anonymous
My AA husband is sickle cell carrier. He did not tell me. It only came out when we had a son (we also had a girl but she does not have the trait). We actually got a letter from the DC dept of Health informing us. At that point he "remembered" being a carrier. Our son will have to tell his future partner if they plan to have children. |
Anonymous
| No. We got engaged at 24. We were pretty serious about marriage and discussed a lot of serious topics like religion, our family's current health status, politics but I have to say this didn't come up and probably should have now that I look back. We did talk about how we would handle prenatal testing and other genetics testing for our kids and results. |
Anonymous
| No. We got married 12 years ago, and dated for a decade. We were very familiar with each other’s families and didn’t really know of any important medical histories. We chose to do genetic testing but unfortunately did it when I was pregnant rather than trying to conceive. I found out I carry 3 very serious mutations. Due to a lab error we didn’t find out until I was 21 weeks pregnant. We rushed his results and found out he was not a carrier at 24 weeks. It was a huge relief we could have avoided if we’d tested prior to conception. But if I knew he were a carrier or vice versa? I don’t think that would have changed my mind about marrying him. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but I only found out a decade later that my parent had a deadly genetic disease that I am 50 percent at risk of inheriting. |
Anonymous
| No, but I met her Mom and she’s nuttier than a fruitcake at Christmas so we stopped dating. I wasn’t about to get involved with those Fuktards! |
Anonymous
Are you sure he knew? |
Anonymous
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My DH was adopted at birth (70s) a complete blank slate medically.
I know my family medical history and it turns out I have a whole range of surprise medical issues that we could never have predicted. So there is only so much good the basic history can do. |
Anonymous
| Hell no |