DH yelled and cursed at me while I was driving

[Anonymous]

He apparently thought I was ignoring him today when he asked me something - I vaguely remember him asking me something, but I was in the middle of work calls and had a very busy day. Then we were driving around doing errands and he asked if I was alright. I told him I felt panicked (it was a very hectic day). He started yelling and cursing at me. We haven't spoken since. Should I even apologize to smooth things over? I feel like he owes me an apology. I didn't intentionally ignore him.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

He definitely owes you an apology... your DH sounds crazy

[Anonymous]

Dont you dare apologize. In fact I wouldnt approach or address him until he can reflect on his actions and offer you a heartfelt apology. You talking to him now will just encourage more of this abusive behavior. Wow.

[Anonymous]

He was wrong.

Is this an isolated incident or does he act like this alot?

[Anonymous]

Huh? Why would you Apologize? Don’t be a doormat and create this monster of apologizing just to keep the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was wrong.

Is this an isolated incident or does he act like this alot?

Not a lot, no. I wouldn't necessarily say it's an isolated incident, but I didn't even see it coming. One minute, I thought things were fine, except for the fact that I felt stressed over an incredibly busy day, the next thing I know he started yelling and cursing. I did make the mistake of texting him to tell him I picked up groceries - I picked up a few things he had mentioned we were running low on as a truce. His text response sounded sarcastic, but I didn't react or reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was wrong.

Is this an isolated incident or does he act like this alot?

Not a lot, no. I wouldn't necessarily say it's an isolated incident, but I didn't even see it coming. One minute, I thought things were fine, except for the fact that I felt stressed over an incredibly busy day, the next thing I know he started yelling and cursing. I did make the mistake of texting him to tell him I picked up groceries - I picked up a few things he had mentioned we were running low on as a truce. His text response sounded sarcastic, but I didn't react or reply.

Yeah, this is not good. I wouldn't want to be around someone, especially a man (bigger and stronger) who has such a lack of control over their emotions. Red flags galore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was wrong.

Is this an isolated incident or does he act like this alot?

+1

[Anonymous]

I feel like there's more to the situation, OP.

I'm not saying that you're not telling the truth, but we need a little more detail and context, because without knowing the "what" he was trying to talk to you about, and how serious it was, it's very hard to determine what happens next.

I understand that you were inundated with work & panicked (been there, done that!) however, were you being present for him and did he feel that you were minimizing whatever he was trying to convey to you?

Let me make myself clear... there's absolutely ZERO excuse for the cursing and yelling, but it would be nice to know what he was so frustrated about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there's more to the situation, OP.

I'm not saying that you're not telling the truth, but we need a little more detail and context, because without knowing the "what" he was trying to talk to you about, and how serious it was, it's very hard to determine what happens next.

I understand that you were inundated with work & panicked (been there, done that!) however, were you being present for him and did he feel that you were minimizing whatever he was trying to convey to you?

Let me make myself clear... there's absolutely ZERO excuse for the cursing and yelling, but it would be nice to know what he was so frustrated about?

You think it's impossible for any person to just freak out for no reason? My, what a sheltered life you must lead.

[Anonymous]

There is a lot more to the story that you are leaving out just to make yourself feel good. We don’t know what he asked beforehand (maybe it was extremely important?). Sounds like he knew you weren’t feeling yourself so he asked if you were ok. I don’t see how you saying you feel panicked would result in him cursing. What exactly did he say? What happened to the errands run? Why was it an accident to text him after?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot more to the story that you are leaving out just to make yourself feel good. We don’t know what he asked beforehand (maybe it was extremely important?). Sounds like he knew you weren’t feeling yourself so he asked if you were ok. I don’t see how you saying you feel panicked would result in him cursing. What exactly did he say? What happened to the errands run? Why was it an accident to text him after?

You think it's impossible for any person to just freak out for no reason? My, what a sheltered life you must lead.

[Anonymous]

It's a little unclear what all happened, but in my book yelling in a car is totally unacceptable and a huge safety risk, especially if a passenger is yelling at the driver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there's more to the situation, OP.

I'm not saying that you're not telling the truth, but we need a little more detail and context, because without knowing the "what" he was trying to talk to you about, and how serious it was, it's very hard to determine what happens next.

I understand that you were inundated with work & panicked (been there, done that!) however, were you being present for him and did he feel that you were minimizing whatever he was trying to convey to you?

Let me make myself clear... there's absolutely ZERO excuse for the cursing and yelling, but it would be nice to know what he was so frustrated about?[/quote]

Yes, it would be nice, wouldn't it? Unfortunately I was unable to figure it out between trying to drive safely while being screamed at.