What does your college student’s relationship with their high school friends look like 1-2 years

[Anonymous]

after hs? Just a poll of sorts. I’m NOT going to helicopter, interfere with,or engineer my young adult’s friendships, obviously, but I worry that my college freshman is going to be too idealistic about this stuff as time goes on.

[Anonymous]

Almost non-existent

[Anonymous]

1 year later, DD is friends with oneHS friend, whom she shared the dorm room with. The other girl from HS that lives a few houses from us, they are much better friends. In HS, they were not really friends, but nice to each others. ALl her friends are from college now. DD has adhd and honestly way too many "friends." She changed friends all the time. She is hyper social ADHD, diagnosed.
DS, 3 years later, has friends from college, but spent his summer with his friends from HS. They even work together during the summer, party together. It is a bit unusual, as they were friends in HS, but not did not really do things together apart from school and sports. Though, they are all college athletes, and some will be turning pro after college, so while in HS, they were together all the time at school and at practices. They are really good friends now. I think this summer of not so much training did improe their friendships. Yes, I know you will say they should not have socialized, but they are adults.

[Anonymous]

I stayed friends with my two closest HS buddies for 15 yrs after graduation. I heavily bought into the social pressure that this was a sign of being a good, loyal, long-haul kind of person. They were unkind to me, and I allowed myself to look away from that due to shared history. Looking back, I wish I had parted ways during freshman year of college.

[Anonymous]

My son stayed best friends with his best friends from middle school. They visited each other at their various schools, and now in their mid/late 20's go on a "Guys Trip" once a year in addition to hanging out each time they're in the same city. He's friendly via social media with other hs friends.

DD decided college was the time to clean house socially. She wound up becoming close friends with a girl she'd always known but never been close with before, and there was a lot of friend-shifting.

[Anonymous]

4 boys, 4 girls so tight in HS that they all agreed they were going to get "8" tattooed on their ankle. I told DS that was a great plan if they were still friends after college. DS still got the tattoo on his own (he was 18).

DS is still close with two of the boys as a junior in college. 3rd boy did something that showed really poor character 2nd year in college and whole group dropped him. Girls are all scattered, and one or two may not be in the friend group at all anymore. DS will still be close friends with one of the girls (neighbor and friend since they were 4), not sure about the other girls. Dating relationships (with new people) definitely upend HS friendships.

[Anonymous]

My bestie from HS is still my bestie. We are 58 years old.

[Anonymous]

My BFf from HS still mine too. Age 53. We didn’t go to college together. Friends with 1 from college, 3 from HS.
My DD 1 yr out from HS still besties with her 2 besties — 3 different colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My bestie from HS is still my bestie. We are 58 years old.

Me too even though we’ve lived in different parts of the country for decades now. Inner circle of friends went to multiple schools in/out of state schools, but stayed in regular contact for 20’years until kids took away a lot of extra time. Two years out of HS we’d still hang out on college breaks/holidays. We still stay connected though we see each other more sporadically.

[Anonymous]

I would say about half of my daughter’s current friend list is made up of friends from high school. Her five “ultimate besties” are people she’s known since kindergarten x2, sixth grade; and freshman year of high school, and then her freshman year of college roommate. There are 15-20 others from high school that she gets together with as well.

She graduated from HS in 2012 and college in 2016.

[Anonymous]

I went to a small high school and am Facebook friends with about 2/3ds of my graduating class.

I’m ring them up when in town at the same time with about 10-15.

I’m Christmas Cards with three (and also their parents who have known me since I was in kindergarten).

I’m talk regularly with zero.

[Anonymous]

Stayed friends with some, still friends to this day. And it isn't necessarily the ones you would think it would be. Just let your kids figure this out on their own, okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say about half of my daughter’s current friend list is made up of friends from high school. Her five “ultimate besties” are people she’s known since kindergarten x2, sixth grade; and freshman year of high school, and then her freshman year of college roommate. There are 15-20 others from high school that she gets together with as well.

She graduated from HS in 2012 and college in 2016.

You have given this way too much thought.

[Anonymous]

Exactly the same except. A little less getting together this summer because of Covid.

[Anonymous]

Only contact with 1 friend. Doesn't really socialize much, but did go to her beach house.