Child of a parent murderer

[Anonymous]

Has anyone here been or known an adult whose parent murdered the other parent? How were they raised if that parent didn't end up in jail. Do they acknowledge that their parent mostly likely committed murder if never comvicted? Do they have a relationship with that parent? Basically an OJ type scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone here been or known an adult whose parent murdered the other parent? How were they raised if that parent didn't end up in jail. Do they acknowledge that their parent mostly likely committed murder if never comvicted? Do they have a relationship with that parent? Basically an OJ type scenario.

This is a very creepy post. Do you plan on murdering your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone here been or known an adult whose parent murdered the other parent? How were they raised if that parent didn't end up in jail. Do they acknowledge that their parent mostly likely committed murder if never comvicted? Do they have a relationship with that parent? Basically an OJ type scenario.

This is a very creepy post. Do you plan on murdering your spouse?

No, unfortunately sad reality of a family friend.

[Anonymous]

A girl in my high school in the 80s has this happen. After graduation I think. Her Mom survived Dad did not (he was the shooter). We always just thought highly of her and wondered how long her family had issues with dominating dad.

[Anonymous]

A friend in middle school witnessed her dad stab her mom to death. He went to prison, she’s done lots of therapy and is doing ok from
What I hear.

[Anonymous]

There was a family in my small town that this happened to in the mid 1980s. There were 4 kids - 2 were twin girls one year older than me. One was sort of a "bad girl" and the other was more of a "good girl." I don't know how it happened, but the good girl was taken in by the family of good friends of mine, and raised like a daughter or foster daughter. No idea how much or little she interacted with her siblings, or where her siblings lived (maybe on their own? There was an older brother who could've been 18? maybe, not sure).

It definitely caused some tensions with my friends, but they all made it through high school. II lost track of the good girl after high school - I beliieve she went to the west coast where she had some maternal extended family. Facebook has put me back in contact with all 4 of the siblings to varying degrees. The youngest daughter, who was only a young middle schooler when it happened, recently died suddenly and unexpectedly. Not clear why/how. The "good girl" I was friendlier with seems to have lived a decent enough life, she has kids and grandkids now (she's 53)and its on the west coast. she doesn't go back to our hometown. She does not seem close with her twin.

I'd say, on the whole, considering my home town, they've done as well as average for a lower middle class family from a small southern town that grew up in the 80s. Hard to say how their lives smgiht have been different had their father not killed their mother. Probably better lives, but maybe not. They probably were not 4 year college bound, but certainly may have had more stability in their life.

I was iin 8th grade when it happened. We were all on a field trip and when the 8th grade came back to school, all the teachers were whispering and clustered together, I saw several teachers crying. It's one of those experiences you never forget. It was hugely impactful in our town for the generation of people who knew the family or were classmates of the kids.

[Anonymous]

This recently happened with a family I know. The dad is gone the mom is in jail. I'm wondering hownthe kids will turn out. They are young.

[Anonymous]

While I was in middle school the wife of a neighbor was having an affair with their regular handyman. The houses in our neighborhood were all nice and my mother would always wonder why theirs needed so much work. The handyman ended up hiring someone to kill the husband, got caught and landed in jail. The two children went to live with their paternal grandparents. The wife claimed innocence and moved away. No idea what her relationship with the kids turned out to be.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my friend's father murdered his mother and then killed himself....so murder-suicide There were 5 siblings and the oldest helped the grandparents raise the younger ones. My friend turned out pretty well and without significant mental health issues. He's a dad, married, employed, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I was in middle school the wife of a neighbor was having an affair with their regular handyman. The houses in our neighborhood were all nice and my mother would always wonder why theirs needed so much work. The handyman ended up hiring someone to kill the husband, got caught and landed in jail. The two children went to live with their paternal grandparents. The wife claimed innocence and moved away. No idea what her relationship with the kids turned out to be.

This was what basically happened to my friend except Mom is still very active in the picture.

Glad to hear so many positive stories. I just don't know how the child will take it as they grow older. Your parent's murderer is your mother and continues to care for you.

[Anonymous]

I once worked in an orphanage in another country and there was a girl whose dad murdered her mom. She ended up in the orphanage... she was from a rural neighborhood with a lot of poverty and alcoholism.
Sad all around. She was 15 when I knew her.

[Anonymous]

Charlize Theron. Her mom killed her dad. The mom and Charlize are very close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Charlize Theron. Her mom killed her dad. The mom and Charlize are very close.

NP. I never knew this and just skimmed her on wikepedia. Didn't know her first language was Afrikkans (sp), either. So interesting

[Anonymous]

I have a friend in this scenario. His mom killed his father (dad was abusive). His mom went to prison and he was raised by his grandparents. He has a relationship with his mom and his father’s side of the family. He is an incredible guy. Has his life together better than a lot of other people and I know and is very kind hearted.

[Anonymous]

When I was in 5th grade my friend’s mother tried to hire her ex husband (friend’s father) to kill her new husband (friend’s stepfather). The ex was a police officer and turned her in. She went to jail, friend went to live with her Dad and we never saw or heard from her again. I’ve always wondered what happened to her.