What gift amount for Bat-Mitzvah for classmate?

[Anonymous]

We have only gone to close family friends in the past - where the entire family is invited.

What is typical gift for the DC area for a classmate? It is not a bestie - but within circle if that matters

[Anonymous]

$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

I was just going to say the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Cash in multiples of $18 in a card.

[Anonymous]

With 20 kids in the grade, we did 18 or 36 dollars for classmates, or a 25 dollar gift card. As parents, we let the kid spend the gift cards right away, and then saved up the checks for much later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

Are you crazy? The average classroom has 25 kids, you multiply 25x90 and you get $2250.00!!! For a teen birthday party? Ught, so out of touch!

For family members yes, but classmates?

Op, $25 and be done with it. No reason to give $36 or $54 or $72 or more... And $18.00 is too low. The multiple of $18.00 thing is their religion or cultural (I have not idea), but not your problem... let his/her family deal with that.

Unless you have money to burn of course.

[Anonymous]

We did $54 for acquaintances (vice close friends). I read these responses and worried we underspent but it seemed that double a birthday present level gift ($20-25) would be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

Since when is $90 divided by 18? I think it depends on how much money you have, where you live, and how many your child will go to this year. If only the child is going, I’d do $75-$100, but I’ve seen plenty of people on here say $36 is fine. I would feel cheap doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

Since when is $90 divided by 18? I think it depends on how much money you have, where you live, and how many your child will go to this year. If only the child is going, I’d do $75-$100, but I’ve seen plenty of people on here say $36 is fine. I would feel cheap doing that.

Um, 90/5 is 18, I think you need to go back to 3rd grade math!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$90 or another multiple of 18 around that.

Are you crazy? The average classroom has 25 kids, you multiply 25x90 and you get $2250.00!!! For a teen birthday party? Ught, so out of touch!

For family members yes, but classmates?

Op, $25 and be done with it. No reason to give $36 or $54 or $72 or more... And $18.00 is too low. The multiple of $18.00 thing is their religion or cultural (I have not idea), but not your problem... let his/her family deal with that.

Unless you have money to burn of course.

Since it didn’t sound like OP has been to a lot of bar/bat mitzvahs I was assuming they were not Jewish and the entire class wasn’t Jewish, therefore you give more for the couple of kids who have such celebrations. I doubt it’s 25.

[Anonymous]

At first child's mitzvah, he received a mix of $36 and $54 checks. By 2nd son's mitzvah, every check from peers was $54.

[Anonymous]

The least my kid received was $72.

[Anonymous]

I am Jewish and I think $25 or $36 is just fine. I guess it depends what circles you run in. $90 from a peer seems excessive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Jewish and I think $25 or $36 is just fine. I guess it depends what circles you run in. $90 from a peer seems excessive!

+1. I would not be comfortable with a schol friend thinking they should give a $90 gift. When Larla invites her 8th grade lunch table to her Bat Mtizah, it is the equivalnt of a bday party...though to the family it is a much more important event.

[Anonymous]

When you say cash, can it be a check?