How can I make the room mom happy?

[Anonymous]

I have some pretty severe PTSD surrounding masks, so I'd planned to make myself at school this year. When the room mom emailed me for party signups, I chose Easter hoping for the best, though I know masks will still be around.

Is anything I can do besides "host" the party? Anything but actually be there? Throw money at it? What would make you happy if you were the room mom in this case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have some pretty severe PTSD surrounding masks, so I'd planned to make myself at school this year. When the room mom emailed me for party signups, I chose Easter hoping for the best, though I know masks will still be around.

Is anything I can do besides "host" the party? Anything but actually be there? Throw money at it? What would make you happy if you were the room mom in this case?

Wait to see how other parties go and go from there. You have a long time to figure this out and things will change between now and then.

[Anonymous]

Here's what you do.

YOU BACK OUT.

There should be no school parties at this time, no one should be planning for the second semester just yet.

And you should never be thinking in terms of "making the room mom happy".

- former PTA board member. This is not a popularity contest, it's what's best for the kids, and what's best for the kids right now is less viral transmission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have some pretty severe PTSD surrounding masks, so I'd planned to make myself at school this year. When the room mom emailed me for party signups, I chose Easter hoping for the best, though I know masks will still be around.

Is anything I can do besides "host" the party? Anything but actually be there? Throw money at it? What would make you happy if you were the room mom in this case?

You'll likely be the project manager for the party and in charge of getting other parents to send in snacks, a craft, etc. and filling in the blanks if parents don't show up. Don't worry, the room parent will tell you EXACTLY what you are supposed to do, but for now, nothing. Easter is a long way off

[Anonymous]

Schools aren't going to be allowing parents in the building or having parties. You could say:

1. I would love to support this by donating funds or supplies but I won't be able to host
2. 1 + say someone in your family is very vulnerable to COVID and that's why you will be keeping a low profile at school
3. Could you check in with me closer to the event? I'd love to help in some way but hosting will depend on the timing

Personally, I would just say no but I'm happy to make a donation. Of all the parents in the room, why do you need to do this if it doesn't work for you (for whatever personal reason). I imagine that this is a tough time for you, you don't need to make it harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's what you do.

YOU BACK OUT.

There should be no school parties at this time, no one should be planning for the second semester just yet.

And you should never be thinking in terms of "making the room mom happy".

- former PTA board member. This is not a popularity contest, it's what's best for the kids, and what's best for the kids right now is less viral transmission.

Huh? The kids are already in school together.

[Anonymous]

Is this a real room mom or for a pod room mom? Sorry, I just read the pods going off the rail post.

[Anonymous]

Hard to believe this. Our school has said no parties, and no parents are allowed in the building.

[Anonymous]

WTF? Just tell her no. Use your words like a big kid. Don't tell her yes and then flake later.

When I was room mom, I didn't mind at all when people did literally zero volunteering, it's completely understandable that some people aren't available. But for someone to take on a commitment and then flake later makes things difficult for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to believe this. Our school has said no parties, and no parents are allowed in the building.

Umm, our schools have said no STUDENTS in the building.

This has to be made up. Either that or you have way too much time on your hands that you're worrying about Easter parties.

I'm worried if my kid will ever be educated again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's what you do.

YOU BACK OUT.

There should be no school parties at this time, no one should be planning for the second semester just yet.

And you should never be thinking in terms of "making the room mom happy".

- former PTA board member. This is not a popularity contest, it's what's best for the kids, and what's best for the kids right now is less viral transmission.

Huh? The kids are already in school together.

Teachers are working as hard as they can to NOT allow students to socialize, to take their masks off except for necessary eating (a party with food is not necessary), to not allow them to physically clump together, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's what you do.

YOU BACK OUT.

There should be no school parties at this time, no one should be planning for the second semester just yet.

And you should never be thinking in terms of "making the room mom happy".

- former PTA board member. This is not a popularity contest, it's what's best for the kids, and what's best for the kids right now is less viral transmission.

Huh? The kids are already in school together.

They’re supposed to be distanced, with masks. Parties and distancing don’t go together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to believe this. Our school has said no parties, and no parents are allowed in the building.

Umm, our schools have said no STUDENTS in the building.

This has to be made up. Either that or you have way too much time on your hands that you're worrying about Easter parties.

I'm worried if my kid will ever be educated again.

Either private, charter or not in dmv. But numerous schools are going back. My local elementary certainly is, and it’s going to be a sh*tshow.

[Anonymous]

What the heck causes severe PTSD around masks?

[Anonymous]

Is this public school? Who has an Easter party in public school?