Moments of "unbondedness" with newborn?
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Anonymous
| Baby is coming up on 6 weeks. He's a big, easy baby. I bf but supplement as needed. He sleeps for hours most nights. Felt totally in love with him since delivery, but noticed yesterday and today a sense of disconnection and slight irritation with him. We are currently sitting in a recliner, skin to skin, and I feel better and closer to him. But I wondered if what I was feeling is normal? I still feel disturbed by it, since it was such a drastic change from my prior emotions. |
Anonymous
| yes, normal |
Anonymous
| OMG it’s an infant- they have turned your life upside down physically and emotionally with nonstop demands and can barely even smile. The miracle of bonding is that you don’t feel like that all the time. You’re doing great. |
Anonymous
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It’s fine.
If you start feeling this way, day in and day out, please talk to your doctor about postpartum depression. |
Anonymous
| Totally normal. When I felt like that a short break always helped — I would hand the baby to DH and take a shower or walk or nap, whatever felt most necessary. You are doing a great job, it’s important to let yourself be human and irritated and take a break from constant nurturing. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
If you keep doubting whether your feelings are normal, to the extent that you are bothered by having them, same. |
Anonymous
| It was kind of like a ... misfire of hormones. Be gentle with yourself, and if you notice it happening more then talk to your doctor about it |
Anonymous
| Normal |
Anonymous
| I don't think that's normal. Sounds like PPD. |
Anonymous
| OP. Thanks, all. |
Anonymous
Normal. The bonding hormones are stabilizing. Once he has more personality you will love him for HIM. Until he dumps out a box of Cheerios all over the floor 
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Anonymous
| Totally normal. Babies suck, you've got fluids coming out of you from everywhere, and you are extremely sleep deprived with your hormones running rampant. If you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, seek help immediately, but it's really normal to not feel deeply thrilled by this tiny creature that has upended your life and pretty much only needs stuff from you and gives little back right now. I generally just endure my kids until they're about six or seven months and start to get interesting. |
Anonymous
| Normal. Only recently, at 6 months has it evened out much more for me. |
Anonymous
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So normal. Of course you are sometimes irritated by another human in your house - especially when that human is soooo needy. Think of your DH - you love him but I am sure experience moments of irritation.
Give yourself a chance to miss him by taking breaks as you can. |