Moments of "unbondedness" with newborn?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP who said it sounds like PPD. I felt this way with my child and I had horrible PPD/PPA. OP, please take care of your self and beware of other symptoms you have.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. My second was an easy, fat, happy baby. I just didn’t love him as much or feel as bonded. It took a few months. I’m madly in love with him now. Not everything happens on day 1 and that’s ok

[Anonymous]

Your hormones start to tank around 6 weeks. Totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your hormones start to tank around 6 weeks. Totally normal.

I didn’t feel bonded with my first at all for a long time. With my second it was instant love...until 3-6 weeks later when I was beyond exhausted and my hormones tanked like PP said. I’m smitten with both now though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your hormones start to tank around 6 weeks. Totally normal.

I didn’t feel bonded with my first at all for a long time. With my second it was instant love...until 3-6 weeks later when I was beyond exhausted and my hormones tanked like PP said. I’m smitten with both now though!

+1

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. The newborn phase is hard.

[Anonymous]

He'll start smiling at you soon, and then you will be sunk again, in a good way.

I found that right at the point that the blob of a baby was starting to drive me to annoyance, they'd do something adorable like hold my finger and coo. Or smile when you say good morning. 6 weeks is the tipping point for more interaction. Still mainly a blob for awhile, but 6 months+ you get some more adorable happy times that will generally be reserved and BEST for mama.

[Anonymous]

Just wait. Your kid is going to irritate you A LOT. haha

[Anonymous]

Not the OP but similar question. When do you start feeling a constant bond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP but similar question. When do you start feeling a constant bond?

I didn't really feel it until my babies could interact more. The love grew for me, though I always felt a primal need to protect. My kids are now 7,6, and 2 and I love them more than anything in the world. But newborns kind of suck.