Incredibly Covid-cautious pediatrician

[Anonymous]

Well this is what happens when you decide to have a baby in the middle of a pandemic… choices have consequences!

[Anonymous]

Given Covid I don’t think the advice is completely off in terms of pulling the older ones out of daycare temporarily, but I think it’s over the top to say your vaccinated parents shouldn’t visit. A reasonable approach might be to have your parents stay with you for a while to help you out if you keep the older ones out of preschool for a bit.

In terms of next winter, you have to do what you need to do and I would not let a doctor guilt trip you but be aware that surges dues to the delta variant, or some other, may occur and it may seem more critical to keep your kids, especially the baby, out of a group setting for a few months.

[Anonymous]

When we had our second - not during COVID but during flu season, our ped suggested making sure the older kid changed clothes and washed well when coming home before having any contact with the baby. But that's it, no quarantine or restriction to stay home. It seems like it's unreasonable to expect you to keep everyone home through the fall. COVID is different though and our knowledge keeps evolving. Maybe ask a second pediatrician for another opinion?

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Anonymous wrote:Given Covid I don’t think the advice is completely off in terms of pulling the older ones out of daycare temporarily, but I think it’s over the top to say your vaccinated parents shouldn’t visit. A reasonable approach might be to have your parents stay with you for a while to help you out if you keep the older ones out of preschool for a bit.

In terms of next winter, you have to do what you need to do and I would not let a doctor guilt trip you but be aware that surges dues to the delta variant, or some other, may occur and it may seem more critical to keep your kids, especially the baby, out of a group setting for a few months.

Yeah not to pile on to the ped but do they have kids themselves? To expect a mom recovering from childbirth to care for a newborn and two additional kids under 5 on her own without ANY help seems clueless at best, and when it comes to keeping out vaccinated grandparents, pretty uninformed.

Is there another ped in the practice you could see during the newborn visits? I can understand not wanting to change doctors over this if you like them otherwise but you'll be going there a lot the first few months and you're not going to want to get that guilt trip every time.

[Anonymous]

I think the doc is better off not having folks like you in their practice. COVId isn’t going away anytime soon so Your second guessing the doc will continue. The advice comes from concerns for your newborn and you are all up in arms about doc being overly conservative. Your kid your call. No need to come on here to whine and complain as if someone took a limb from you.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow the crazies are really on DCUM today — lol a spinal tap for sniffles in a newborn. Give me a break. It will be ok OP. Make sure caregivers are vaccinated though. Some centers are being upfront about that.

ANY fever in a newborn is an automatic sepsis workup and spinal tap. Not sniffles. FEVER.

[Anonymous]

I think your Dr is being pretty reasonable tbh. We have one who was a February baby. They suggested that everyone in our family and anyone who visited make sure to have a flu shot. This was before Covid and made sense to us, especially after our experience with one of the kiddos catching the flu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your Dr is being pretty reasonable tbh. We have one who was a February baby. They suggested that everyone in our family and anyone who visited make sure to have a flu shot. This was before Covid and made sense to us, especially after our experience with one of the kiddos catching the flu.

The doctor was saying not to let the vaccinated grandparents visit- bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Not really.

Did you know that grandparents who have not been vaccinated against pertussis should not visit a newborn either?

https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/downloads/matte-grandparents.pdf

Babies are fragile and do not have their own immune systems yet.

I am not sure why you would go to a doctor you apparently do not respect or intend to listen to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not really.

Did you know that grandparents who have not been vaccinated against pertussis should not visit a newborn either?

https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/downloads/matte-grandparents.pdf

Babies are fragile and do not have their own immune systems yet.

I am not sure why you would go to a doctor you apparently do not respect or intend to listen to.

JFC, do any of you people read? Her. Parents. Have. Been. Vaccinated. The ped apparently does not trust that the vaccines work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not really.

Did you know that grandparents who have not been vaccinated against pertussis should not visit a newborn either?

https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/downloads/matte-grandparents.pdf

Babies are fragile and do not have their own immune systems yet.

I am not sure why you would go to a doctor you apparently do not respect or intend to listen to.

JFC, do any of you people read? Her. Parents. Have. Been. Vaccinated. The ped apparently does not trust that the vaccines work.

I would be very concerned if my pediatrician did not trust in the efficacy of vaccination.
Is this ped also advising you to pull your other children out of school and completely lock down during RSV/flu season, too?

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Anonymous wrote:Fresh take: I would also ask OB, whose main concern is health of the mom. Yanking two preschoolers out of daycare and having them plus a new baby home all day is a recipe for PPD/PPA. Life even before covid is weighing risks and costs and benefits. No decision is perfect. You can’t be laser focused on only one risk so much so that you ignore everything else. Only you know your life but there’s a lot of factors here including your mental health and also marital stress and finances.

excellent answer!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fresh take: I would also ask OB, whose main concern is health of the mom. Yanking two preschoolers out of daycare and having them plus a new baby home all day is a recipe for PPD/PPA. Life even before covid is weighing risks and costs and benefits. No decision is perfect. You can’t be laser focused on only one risk so much so that you ignore everything else. Only you know your life but there’s a lot of factors here including your mental health and also marital stress and finances.

excellent answer!!!

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