Do you let your kids wear character shirts?

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Anonymous wrote:You have got to be the most uptight pain in the ass to care about some kids characters on a tshirt. I’d worry less about the shirt than about the therapy your kids will need to deal with being raised by someone so ridiculous.

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My kids have never worn character shirts or shirts with words on them. I think they are ugly and my kids never asked for them. They did have some Hanna Andersson pajamas that had Disney princesses on them but they weren't that into them.

I never dragged my kids away from the shirts while they cried - I just never offered them up and they never asked. It's a bit ridiculous (and rude, frankly) of you to make the kind of negative assumptions you did about people who might not like character shirts.

Also, there's nothing wrong with therapy.

Classic narcissist right here.

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Absolutely!!

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Anonymous wrote:There is a big daycare that constantly uses a park near us and it almost seems like character shirts are the required, or at leas de facto, uniform to attend to the daycare. Maybe it's just a different mindset between parents who choose daycare and other forms of childcare, but I certainly don't want my kid looking like that.

Damn, this is some quality trolling. Well done!

Thanks, but I'm not trolling. Have you ever seen a daycare descend on a park? It is quite a scene.

The older kids are walking single file attached to a rope like a preschool chain gang. The younger kids are pushed along in these passive wagons that can hold around 12 toddlers. And they are all disheveled, dirty, and wearing a horrid mishmash of cartoon characters.

I'm sure it is hard to get kids up and out in the morning while the adults get ready for work. But, how can people not have even a modicum of pride in what their kids look like when out of the house?

Pick your battles hon. If this battle get to rise to the top of your list, consider yourself fortunate.

No battles. My kids were taught our family's expectations from an early age.

Poor kids

The prevalence of the mindset that having standards for our children is bad is why the country is stumbling towards mediocrity, if not worse.

No it's the prevalence of the attiude that some people are more deserving of respect based on their economic status or how valuable you perceive them to be.

It's not really about SES. Lots of character clothing can be quite expensive with royalties that need to be paid. As people have said, there are a lot of very inexpensive ways to get other clothing (new and used) without characters. The daycare in question charges $2,500+, so it's not really a money issue.

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I let my kids have a few, just because they are always so excited about them. My primary problem with character shirts is that I hate polyester kids clothes (harder to get clean, make my kids sweaty) and they all seem to be poly blends.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a big daycare that constantly uses a park near us and it almost seems like character shirts are the required, or at leas de facto, uniform to attend to the daycare. Maybe it's just a different mindset between parents who choose daycare and other forms of childcare, but I certainly don't want my kid looking like that.

Damn, this is some quality trolling. Well done!

Thanks, but I'm not trolling. Have you ever seen a daycare descend on a park? It is quite a scene.

The older kids are walking single file attached to a rope like a preschool chain gang. The younger kids are pushed along in these passive wagons that can hold around 12 toddlers. And they are all disheveled, dirty, and wearing a horrid mishmash of cartoon characters.

I'm sure it is hard to get kids up and out in the morning while the adults get ready for work. But, how can people not have even a modicum of pride in what their kids look like when out of the house?

Pick your battles hon. If this battle get to rise to the top of your list, consider yourself fortunate.

No battles. My kids were taught our family's expectations from an early age.

Poor kids

The prevalence of the mindset that having standards for our children is bad is why the country is stumbling towards mediocrity, if not worse.

My lord, you’ve solved it! It’s because of kids wearing characters in their T-shirts!

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Anonymous wrote:You have got to be the most uptight pain in the ass to care about some kids characters on a tshirt. I’d worry less about the shirt than about the therapy your kids will need to deal with being raised by someone so ridiculous.

NP.

My kids have never worn character shirts or shirts with words on them. I think they are ugly and my kids never asked for them. They did have some Hanna Andersson pajamas that had Disney princesses on them but they weren't that into them.

I never dragged my kids away from the shirts while they cried - I just never offered them up and they never asked. It's a bit ridiculous (and rude, frankly) of you to make the kind of negative assumptions you did about people who might not like character shirts.

Also, there's nothing wrong with therapy.

Of course theres nothing wrong with therapy when you’ve got your head so far up your ass you look like you’re auditioning for cirque du soleil. Now unclench, and breathe a little, you’re gonna be just fine lady, Disney isn’t coming to corrupt your children.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course. How else does one truly BECOME Elsa except by wearing a dress with her picture on it?

<3

Little boys included!

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Anonymous wrote:Here is something to keep in mind, your kids are going to get older. I taught my kids early about what was appropriate and what wasn't appropriate, tried pretty hard not to give in to tantrums over ugly character clothes and iron on Disney/videogame/tv show themed crap.

They are now in middle school and my daughter happily turns her nose up at half the shill they sell in Forever 21.

Here's the message, and here is why I was a "snob" about clothes when they were young: it's fine to have a few fun pieces that make you happy, but don't build your entire wardrobe on messaged/logoed/branded trash. Buy nice things that last and won't fill up the landfill. I'm happy your daughter chose a "save the earth" tee-shirt, but junk fashion is one of the reasons our planet is dying and humans are currently enslaved for their production.

Buy nice things that can be worn a long time.

Yes, I'm a kid's clothes snob.

Lol. But not the other half?

It’s fine to have clothes that make your kid happy. I have little kids, and they’re very active, and they play outside constantly in grass and dirt and streams. Their clothes get messed up, stained, and quickly outgrown. I don’t want to invest in expensive clothes that “can be worn a long time”, because they will not be worn a long time. So if Target has a bunch of relatively good quality shirts that are $10 and they have a Batman symbol on them...who cares?

My kids aren’t little dolls for me to accessorize in the exact way that I want because I’m anxious about what someone will think of me if they aren’t curated “just so”. They’re kids. They like what they like. And I think it’s unhealthy to prevent them from having at least some level of autonomy in how they dress.

Thank you!!!! This is exactly how I feel too.

I have zero qualms about letting my kid wear a cute character shirt from Target. I grew up upper middle class and if people want to judge me because of what my kid is wearing, have at it.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a big daycare that constantly uses a park near us and it almost seems like character shirts are the required, or at leas de facto, uniform to attend to the daycare. Maybe it's just a different mindset between parents who choose daycare and other forms of childcare, but I certainly don't want my kid looking like that.

Damn, this is some quality trolling. Well done!

Thanks, but I'm not trolling. Have you ever seen a daycare descend on a park? It is quite a scene.

The older kids are walking single file attached to a rope like a preschool chain gang. The younger kids are pushed along in these passive wagons that can hold around 12 toddlers. And they are all disheveled, dirty, and wearing a horrid mishmash of cartoon characters.

I'm sure it is hard to get kids up and out in the morning while the adults get ready for work. But, how can people not have even a modicum of pride in what their kids look like when out of the house?

Pick your battles hon. If this battle get to rise to the top of your list, consider yourself fortunate.

No battles. My kids were taught our family's expectations from an early age.

Your kids hate you. Their spouses will undoubtedly hate you as well. We’ll probably read their complaints about you in the Family Relationships forum someday 😉

Yep, what’s more important to her is her “pride” in her kids for being forced to be classy by not wearing a character shirt, than her kids own pride in themselves for having independence and agency to pick something they really like that makes them happy. I see therapy in your kids’ future.

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And it's about common sense, as much as anything else.

In our family, for casual wear, I'm fine with character shirts. Running around the backyard, going to the park, fine. Church, family wedding, holidays? Not for us. Kids can understand that. School is uniforms for us so not an issue.

It doesn't have to be all or nothing. BTW when dc was in daycare I was fine with inexpensive character clothes. If your kid goes to daycare and comes home every day pristine, you should question what they do all day-because kids should be playing and creating! Which is messy.

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You’re a first time parent aren’t you?

With kid #1 I resisted it until she actually asked
With kid #2 I just bought them when she was 2 because omg it made her so happy.

For me it was more about the consumerism of the whole thing — not it being déclassé or whatever because I don’t care about that.

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Anonymous wrote: And it's about common sense, as much as anything else.

In our family, for casual wear, I'm fine with character shirts. Running around the backyard, going to the park, fine. Church, family wedding, holidays? Not for us. Kids can understand that. School is uniforms for us so not an issue.

It doesn't have to be all or nothing. BTW when dc was in daycare I was fine with inexpensive character clothes. If your kid goes to daycare and comes home every day pristine, you should question what they do all day-because kids should be playing and creating! Which is messy.

This seems like a sensible approach. For nice outings, we wear our nicer clothes. For going to school or the playground, if it fits and your kid likes it, who cares what they’re wearing? It’s going to get gross and dirty anyway.

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Wow social climbers will sacrifice their kids’ joy huh? You really think that will get you status? It sounds pathetic. Parenting in the dmv is toxic.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is something to keep in mind, your kids are going to get older. I taught my kids early about what was appropriate and what wasn't appropriate, tried pretty hard not to give in to tantrums over ugly character clothes and iron on Disney/videogame/tv show themed crap.

They are now in middle school and my daughter happily turns her nose up at half the shill they sell in Forever 21.

Here's the message, and here is why I was a "snob" about clothes when they were young: it's fine to have a few fun pieces that make you happy, but don't build your entire wardrobe on messaged/logoed/branded trash. Buy nice things that last and won't fill up the landfill. I'm happy your daughter chose a "save the earth" tee-shirt, but junk fashion is one of the reasons our planet is dying and humans are currently enslaved for their production.

Buy nice things that can be worn a long time.

Yes, I'm a kid's clothes snob.

Actually if you have an f about the planet you would utilize hand me downs you idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a big daycare that constantly uses a park near us and it almost seems like character shirts are the required, or at leas de facto, uniform to attend to the daycare. Maybe it's just a different mindset between parents who choose daycare and other forms of childcare, but I certainly don't want my kid looking like that.

Damn, this is some quality trolling. Well done!

Thanks, but I'm not trolling. Have you ever seen a daycare descend on a park? It is quite a scene.

The older kids are walking single file attached to a rope like a preschool chain gang. The younger kids are pushed along in these passive wagons that can hold around 12 toddlers. And they are all disheveled, dirty, and wearing a horrid mishmash of cartoon characters.

I'm sure it is hard to get kids up and out in the morning while the adults get ready for work. But, how can people not have even a modicum of pride in what their kids look like when out of the house?

People send kids to daycare in crappy clothing bc little kids are making messes, playing, eating, with other kids. Daycare is messy business. Nobody sends kids to daycare in their Sunday best. The clothes get trashed there.